Is there any way to word this without sounding racist?

Question

Okay I know alot of you yahoo users can be quite harsh, and I want you to know that I am in NO way racist. I know there are good and bad in every race, and I don't judge anyone by the color of their skin. So please, I would really like serious answers only.

I live in a bad neighborhood in Orange County, but its cheap, and I have 9 more months of school left then I can get a good job and move somewhere better.

There are alot of gangs around, perverts, and just not so nice or clean people. I need to find new day care. I am currently driving way too far with the sitter I have now, and cant afford the gas anymore. But if I cant find another person that is good, I will have no choice but to make the drive.

Anyways, I want to seek new daycare, and I am thinking about putting an ad on craigslist and having some interviews. I would like a white family. Only because even the kids in the area are bad.. I mean my little brother was in a Christian Preschool and got sent home with bruises from other kids. And I really just want to find a small family with 1 or 2 kids to watch over my little girl.

Is there any way of posting an ad like that, with that kind of request without sounding racist?

Answer 1

I don't really think there's any way to not seem racist whilst saying you would prefer just one race to respond.

It may waste you some time, but perhaps you could just post the ad and do your interviews, and hopefully a white family will respond. Then you don't owe the other respondents anything and you'll find what you're looking for.  

Answer 2

well if any black american families respond jus tell them yu already found some1

Answer 3

I don't know that you could word that without sounding a tad on the racist side. I realize that this isn't your intention, but you have to ask yourself, why would you feel that your child would be so much safer with a white family? That's not a guarantee or anything. Just post an ad and keep an open mind when you interview.

Answer 4

Just be straight forward in your ad, what you want is what you want, and if other people don't agree, who cares! Its your child and your childs safety, and if it offends someone then just ignore the offended! !

Answer 5

No, there isn't any way to post that without sounding, or being, racist.   That aside, you can't possibly be serious about finding daycare through Craigslist.  If you want a nanny, and don't like the people in your area, you're going to have to drive anyway.  Call a reputable daycare or nanny agency and speak to them.  Don't forget to ask for references and check them.  You are also entitled to do a surprise inspection of the daycare.  Good luck to you.

Answer 6

this is not craigs list

why are you posting want ads on Y!A?

Answer 7

Give your children up for adoption!

When u finish school hire a lawyer and fight to get them back!

Peace!

Answer 8

While you are free to want what you want, at the same time, you are stereotyping really bad.

Yes, there are problems with 'ghettoes' and many of those 'ghettoes' are mainly dark-skinned families. However, not all of them are, and not all dark-skinned people are 'ghetto'!

My suggestion would be to put in the ad that you are looking for a family that shares your family values (and list the basics, including religion if that's important). Then, when you get responses, interview them over the phone, and then an interview at their home (for home daycares). This way, you can see what they are like, what their home is like, and what their children are like.

Don't specify that you want a 'white' provider...that -is- racist, dear, whether you want to believe it or not. That's stereotyping against anyonoe that is not white, and that's wrong.

There are good and bad in all races, just like you said, and you might find that the perfect care provider just happens to have dark skin, or maybe not. Just don't go in expecting that your perfect care provider -has- to be white.

Answer 9

If you advertise you are looking for a White only babysitter or daycare for your child you are going to sound racist and potentially scare off a particular sitter of your choice. Though I'm not a Christian I think a good idea would be to find someone in the Church for people that exhibit the values you require. Also the advantage of placing an ad is you are afforded a screening process. Unless there is some sort of issue you can also look into reaching out to your daughters relatives on her father's side of the family. I'm not trying to be presumptuous but it sounds like you are a single mom with no support from child's father or his family. I don't know your situation but maybe you should put your feelings aside and work something out with him or his family. If this is not the case I apologize.  

Answer 10

The appropriate word for you is prejudiced. You think that a white family would have all the values that you would like in a sitter simply because they are white. While this assumption may make you feel safe, it might also put your child in a situation that might be less than optimal because you cared more about the race of the caregivvers than the actual care. If I followed your logic, I as a black person wouldn't let white people near my kids as they make up a large percentage of child molesters. However I do not think that way, because I know there are child molesters in every race, and that stereotypes don't protect us. They give a false sense of security.

Answer 11

I can understand the desire to want your child to be in a safe area.  However, a white person's home doesn't always mean safe.  Crimes are committed in so called better neighboorhoods.  You should keep your options open.  You might feel that you aren't being racist, but you are.  And I don't mean it to be rude or come down on you.  My daughter went through three different babysitters, all white mind you, and I finally found one, who is Hispanic, and she is a dream!!!!  The second daycare (more like a babysitter with four to five children) was a nightmare and it was in the BEST neighborhood in my city.  The babysitter thought it was okay for HER children to do whatever they wanted, including tearing up my daughters toys, diapers, whatever they could get their little hands on.   I don't think that race should dictate who you want your children with.  It should be about the person, the home, and the way that person runs the daycare.