Is there anyone else who could care less who there real parents are?

Question

I was adopted at 3 yrs old. My real family lived in the same town as me. They never wanted to try to see me or anything. I was adopted into a good home. I see that some people on here on curious to find there biological parents. I could care less....they left me and never tried to be a part of my life. I would never try to find them. My situation is different than some

Answer 1

Up until I was in my 30's I didn't care to know.  But, this is different for everyone.  Some people want to know early on, some people later on, some people never, some people change their minds.  This is a personal matter.  To me, all that matters is how I feel about it for myself.  How you or anyone else feels is your own personal deal.  I don't think people "have to" or "should" feel one way or another.

Answer 2

For most it is more a matter of wanting to know medical and family history but some just feel the need to find out why they were given up or to feel if there is a blood connection there.  Just looking to fill an empty feeling.  Some are from bad adoptive homes.  They have their reasons I am sure but it is perfectly understandable as well to not want anything to do with them, especially giving your situation.

Answer 3

a personal matter that each person must decide.  I felt that way, then my birth aunt found me and called.  I have met my birth mother and it has been fabulous.

But as you say, your situation is different.  So maybe it would only be bad.   Consider if you will feel settled your whole life if you never contact them before they die.

Answer 4

I felt the same way you do for a long time. But as time has gone by and my kids have gotten older I have become more interested.  My daughter has some developmental issues that keep coming to a dead end so I am wondering if having some info might help.  Also, I'm realizing that a window is closing....I'm getting older and my bio parents may not even be alive.   So, I've decided to give it a try and see what happens. But I understand your feelings.  I'm 42 and I felt the way you do until recently.

I had a good home too, but my wanting some info isn't at all a statement about my upbringing.  I'm glad I was adopted.  By the way, I like the name :)

Answer 5

If your parents would have tried to contact you after you were taken and sold... they go to jail...

NO CONTACT!!

So...

It's just easier to place the blame and not look into the truth then to face it hu?

Boy I wish I could just stick my head in the sand... and ignore everything..



I feel for you... even though you don't feel for yourself..as you just don't care.....

Answer 6

i was raised by my birthmother but i wish she hadn't told me my father wasn't my biological father. i stopped visiting him and grew up without a father. i learned the hard way that biology isn't the definition of father. my biological one didn't contact me until my 20s, it was too late for me to care that now he wanted to know me.

Answer 7

I am looking for mine, mainly because I have no one. I was Adopted then the adopted parents abused me. Now I am back in foster care. I really want someone and rite now that someone is my biological parents. I am sorry your biological family did that. To be honest I would do anything to have mine back.

Answer 8

No.  I care.  I want to know who my first parents are AND I was adopted into a good home (why do people who don't want to know about their first familes always point out they had a good home - are you implying that those who do search had a bad home?).

I have two sets of parents who are very REAL

You could care less?  that's fine too

Answer 9

You have the right to feel and have relationships with anyone you want.  You are not obligated to anyone.  I am sure lots of people feel like you.

Gomer! OK!  

Yes, it is clear you are damaged!

Answer 10

i actually want adopted parents if you read my last question you will understand why aaarrrggghhh  

i hate my real parents as well but i have to say without them i won't have my two beautiful sister and my two f'd up brothers   i hate them to but yeah...

x*x

Answer 11

I used to care but not anymore.

Answer 12

I am also someone who really does not care if I ever meet any genetic family. I never plan to search and don’t know how I would react if someone tried to contact me. Sure Medical information would be a benefit and if I was contacted I might try and get that, but I would think that would be selfish of me if I had no plans to communicated  with this bloodkin outside getting some medical information.

Much easier if there was away to medical information but that i did not have to contact this people.  luckily i have been a fairly healthy person.

Answer 13

I can relate to you abit, but only a small amount!

I used to have this whole I couldnt give a **** attitude, but I grew to realise that deep down, I could give a ****!

I wanted to know how life had worked out for my bios and who I looked like. Thats about it though. I couldnt care less about giving them the right to be my parents when they are NOT my parents.

I have parents and my bios just arnt them.

Answer 14

yes -- felt exactly like you do.  then i was hunted down when i was in my earlier 30's and i was absolutely livid about it.  how dare they open MY records and find me?  i still can't believe that somehow someone else is able to make a connection between a person who existed for 6 weeks and hte person i am now.  Makes me wonder what private records were accessed that were none of their business!  

since that time the reunion has been up and down but mostly down.  we are two different people and don't see eye to eye on much -- i'm not about to change who i am to be who she thinks i should be if she had raised me.

i really think that it is wrong to expect reunion to heal you.  sometimes, it can damage someone else in the process.

Answer 15

My "real" parents are the people who have raised me and loved me for 40 years now.  Meeting my bio family, while a worthwhile experience, has done nothing but convince me that adoption was the best thing to ever happen to me.

Answer 16

It's awesome that you have great family! I'm sorry that you feel your birth family didn't care. However that may not be the case. Maybe your bio parents knew they weren't able to raise you and are happy you have a new home and do not want to hurt the child they gave up or the fabulous family who is raising him. Every situation is different, and maybe I got it all wrong. But there is nothing wrong with surrounding yourself with people who love you. Your family must drown you in love because you really seem content with them. Cool. Have a great evening!

Answer 17

My real family ??? so what are the people who adopted you into a good home called ???

Are you a puppy ??

I must still be fogged because as far as I am concerned my Adoptive parents are my REAL PARENTS because they parented me..But I do have a Mother who gave birth to me

Answer 18

I was going to answer, but minimouse68 said exactly what I would say. I do have a friend who has chosen not to search, though, despite support from her parents and the rest of her family. Just no interest. I think it's a very personal decision.

Answer 19

II grew up with my real parents but if they were my adopted parents and somebody else was my real parents but didnt care about m i wouldnt care because i love them and they love me