Is there anyone you know who decided not to have children?

Question

This includes not having children whether biologically, by adopting or from IVF treatments.

I have an aunty whos 48 who does not have any children and decided not to mainly because of the life responsability each child involves, commitment and lack of finance.

Answer 1

My cousin who is 40 decided that she did not want children.  She admitted she is far too selfish and couldn't put anyone before herself!  She is great with kids, a really good aunt, but her greatest pleasure is herself, which I think is fair enough.

I think it is a personal choice, I myself have three children and wouldn't have it any other way - but thankfully the women who admit to not wanting them and follow it through, not getting crushed by pressure of peoples opinions, have my respect.

:o)

Answer 2

I decided not to have kids and I am 24. I like my freedom to much. I told somebody on my job that I didn't want kids and was annoyed because she said that in the Bible that it says to reproduce and multiply. There are 6.5 billion people in the world today. Why can't people see that? I believe that parenting isn't for everybody.

Answer 3

To be honest, I am not very good with children. Interacting with children does not interest me; I find babies' screams and tantrums vile.  

But I do want children. Even though I don't like interacting with them, and I'm not good with kids either..

Oh well. If Victoria Beckham can have three kids, so can I.

Answer 4

My aunt (she's 24) has decided she doesn't want children. She has already met the love of her life, but she is never going to have children, because the thought of childbirth and raising a child gives her nightmares. She's scared she will do something wrong, but I think she would be a great mom. She is good with kids. =)

Answer 5

Most people who dont have children grow older lonely and could be disrespected in certain communities. You will find that friends over the years with children vanish away from you as they are too occupied with their lives. One will probably find themselves going to Bingo and the pub.

Answer 6

my uncle who lives in asutralia and his wife decided not to have children... i think because of their carrers.

Answer 7

My aunt never had children

Answer 8

my best friend she does not want any children she is 37 next year and always said she does not want kids she loves my son but i think people do tend to regret it when they are much older in life.

Answer 9

My sister 40, my boss 53, my friends from school (2 female aged 42,38) and a bloke i work with 51 - he says hes alergic to children !!

Answer 10

Me.  I've known for 20 years that I don't want children.  I'm not prepared for or able to cope with the responsibility.  I like my life the way it is - I'm independent, I have my freedom and my only responsiblities are to my friends and family - their lives and wellbeing do not depend on me and the decisions I make, and believe me, that is a good thing.  I have been told that I am selfish for making this decision, but I disagree.  I recognise my limitations, and I believe it would be an awful lot more selfish for me to bring a child into the world when I do not believe I am equipped to be a good parent.

Answer 11

I know a lot of people that did so. It is called being child free.  It is very common today.  

I am child free, my girlfriend is.  Many of our friends are.  I have read that one in five women in the USA are child free (nobody keeps this statistics on men).  The numbers are much higher in Europe.

Go to any search engine and look up "childfree", "child-free", or "child free".

Answer 12

Heya

Yes i know a women that just really doesnt like kids and decided never to have any , she is 56.

=] x*x

Answer 13

I am 30 and I'm 10.5 weeks preg but quite a few of my friends dont want kids, they like to go out and just have fun and kids would get in the way of that however they have still not met the right guys so i dont know if a couple of them are just saying that cos they dont have a partner??

Whatever they do, i'll be supportive xx

Answer 14

Yes, me. It is quite a responsibility and I respect anyone who can manage it.

Answer 15

Yep, me, for one.  I know plenty of others as well.  Best decision I ever made.

Answer 16

Yes. I know a few people who are childfree, so am I. I pretty sure, and I'm hoping, the childfree ratio is increasing.

I feel the same way as your aunt. This is the greatest decision I've ever made in my life.

Answer 17

MY AUNT DECIDED THE SAME THING...

Answer 18

Yes my husbands auntie is in her 40's and she has no kids and still lives with her mam...shes not stupid or a geek or anything like that she just said shedoesnt want the responsibilty of looking after a child and would rather just babysit her neices and nephews!!

Answer 19

yes...my ex-husband's next wife...she didn't like children - never wanted any & couldn't stand being around them...which was a problem when my children stayed with their dad!!  they are now divorced!!

but...she has a good job & lots of money...and is alone - but that's the way she likes it....wouldn't suit me...i love kids!!

Answer 20

I have several friends who have decided not to have children, but they make wonderful aunts.

I quite often get negative comments for being a mum to 5 kids, but some of the hurtful things that they have had said to them are awful. To chose to not have kids is as brave as having them as often it takes alot of self searching and self realisation to come to the decision.

My sister on the other hand has always said no to children, but has now changed her mind. So no decision is ever set in stone.

Answer 21

Hi, Yes my sister in law decided she was not maternal so her husband had the snip. (they both did not want any children)