Is there anything I can do to help my little sister?

Question

My sister has been diagnosed with depression and is extremely sensitive to loss of any kind. I think it is her losing, or coming close to losing people that has triggered her depression. I almost died when I was 14, and she was 10; our brother moved out when we were young, and we rarely see him (it was a turbulent move); her best friend's father was killed in a vehicle accident a few months ago; and I am moving to Florida in three weeks. I know she is having a hard time with Andy's death, and then I'm going to move 1000 miles away. Is there anything I can do to assure her that she isn't "losing" me, and make her feel connected with me?

Answer 1

I think that when you move, make sure to send frequent letters, and call her daily. And perhaps you could buy her something to remind her of you. It'll reassure her that you love her, and are thinking of her, no matter where you are.

Answer 2

make sure you call, text or email her every couple of days. let her know that you can be contacted at ANY time of the day or night so she doesn't feel like she's caught you at a bad time when she's having a really hard time.

support is everything, make sure you keep in contact with not only her, but the rest of your family so that way 1000 miles doesn't feel that far away after all. visit if you can or even get her to come visit you.

it's a very dark time in her life and she needs a light. if she is seeing a therapist, ask about her progress and how you can help. if she isn't, suggest you go with her to her first before you leave.

hope this helps

Answer 3

Call at least once a day... even if it's just to say hi and that you love her... it always made my sister happy when she went to bording school in another state...

Answer 4

os this really a TV show, if not, excuse me please. But I'd say she is going to have trouble with that all her life, it never really goes away. The best thing she can do is pray for a better life. make some money and spend it on her self, life is not its all cracked up to be really. But if you believe in freedom, she can do whatever she wants.

Answer 5

you must try to talk to your sister.

talk as much as possible. is the best way.

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Answer 6

um...  Dear @ss

My advise is to explain to her fully and deeply that separation is a cycle of life... she shouldn't be tied down with death and sorrow. If you do then you're life would be a never ending cycle of moaning and weeping.

On your hand you shouldn't keep promises that you feel would be too much of a burden, like visiting her weekly or monthly, if you do then she'll depend too much on you and she can never really cure her self of depression

Assure her that you'll be ok.. and maybe take her to a church, to keep her mind occupied.

I hope she gets better :P

Answer 7

Tell her you can all talk via email or on the telephone whatever. why don't she just move with you? I'm so sorry for her losses... is she taking anything for her depression? maybe seek a doctors help before you leave? best of luck

Answer 8

Dear Wiper,

I must say, I am very touched how deeply you feel about/are concerned with your sister. I know if I was your sister, I would be so proud to have a sibling like you :)

Please send her my regards about everything - everything she's been forced to deal with would be overwhelming for anyone, let alone for someone in their early teens.

I think the best case for you to reassure her that you're not going anywhere is to spend as much time with her as life allows; do some real sibling bonding time, and do activities you guys will enjoy together that will strengthen your bond and raise her self-esteem. Just the little things like movies, eating out or making dinner together as well as adrenaline-pumping activities like rock-climbing or picking up a hobby together should be more than enough to reassure her that you truly do care, as well as help her learn how to stand on her own two feet despite all the loss and pain in her life.

Trust me on this; I've been clinically depressed throughout my teenage years, so I know as well as anyone that all somebody really needs is a caring and helping hand that's willing to reach out and bring me out of the darkness and into the surface of light, because nothing's worse than feeling like you have to handle life all by yourself.

I whole-heartedly hope everything goes well for the both of you, and hope I helped :)

Answer 9

call her alot?

Answer 10

TALK TO HER ABOUT IT

and make sure she feels secure and she understands..call her often once you move

get a close friend or relative to keep checking on her every now and then to make her feel like she isnt alone and someone cares

Answer 11

Assure her you love her and will keep in touch

talk to her over the internet phone and visit often

Mail her things...just little reminders that you're there for her and she will NEVER lose you.  

Answer 12

All kids faces lost sooner or later in their lives. How they cope is by talking it out to people who will listen. How others cope is also learned. Some have faiths that helps us understand about life and death. For death is not the end but a beginning to another level of existence. So spending time explaining to her may make her feel less vuneralable and fearful. She can be also reassured that there are others out there who are kind and helpful if anything happens to you. Social ties should be encouraging and positive. If she has no one else but you that will make her more anxious. Relatives and friends are good for building trust and love crucial to growing young children who have experienced tragic events.

Answer 13

my best suggestion is for her to go and see her gp, and talk to him/her about how she feels, and they may suggest that she goes to

beravement counselling, that will help her ,and her gp  can arrange this

on her behalf ,

i know it is a sad time for all, you have my thoughts andi know how

you must all feel at a time like this,

sorry to hear it,

give her as much support as you, can. that is the most important thing of all,  

i hope your sister gets this all sorted out ,

  i'm affraid it all takes time.

thinking of you all,  

  



    

Answer 14

Things change.  You cant always be there for your sister, but what about a cellphone, or email, or chat or some other internet type programme where she can talk with you about everything and wont feel the distance as keenly.