Is there anything apart from alcohol that can relax your nerves?

Question

i feel easier talkin to guys when intoxicated. but its not so attractive, its only because when im tipsy i can say what i feel n feel relaxed. but i need sumthing else.. mayb available at a chemist? to help me be relaxed n not nervous

Answer 1

Two ideas that work for me:

1.) Calming (also called "Abdominal" ) Breathing.

Simple---just remember 5-5-5:

Breathe in through the nose to the count of five, way down to your abdomen.

Hold it for a count of 5.

Gently blow air out  through your mouth to a count of 5.

Repeat  the 5-5-5-  for five or ten times and you'll feel yourself relax. It can be done unobtrusively in any setting. The first few breaths, you'll still feel tense, but stay with it.  You have to break the cycle of hyperventillation.

2.) Also my Mom taught me to take the focus off of yourself and concentrate on  making the OTHER person comfortable, remembering that guys (or just about anybody at a party) are just as nervous or more nervous than you!  (She had 7 boys--she knows this!)

Answer 2

You don't want to fall into the trap of using alcohol to build confidence socially. Maybe you could start practicing conversing with friends in smaller groups and then try going to different places to try chatting with strangers. Such as an art gallery, book store or a coffee shop-somewhere other than a bar. You might find it easier to talk to one person at a time in an environment that you know something about so talking topics are easier for you to feel comfortable with. If you are in an art gallery and see an interesting young man looking at a painting then you know he is interested in art. As opposed to someone on a bar stool who you only know is interested in beer!! Working on your social skills in a positive way can give you a life long benefit rather than the short term benefit of a pill. I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Practice & positive self talk helps you not be nervous. "I might be nervous but it's okay"  "Once I get started talking, I'll be okay"

Remember to ask the guys questions about himself, they love that.

Chamomile tea

Valerian Root

(Don't use Kava Kava, it has side effects)

2 Advil or Aleve

Have fun