Is there anything i can do to stop my mom splitting me and my twin brother up?

Question

i'm an identical twin. Me and my brother are 14 and we go to boarding school. we've been boarding since we were five but now My mom wants to send one of us to a different school, and we don't want to be split up. We've never been apart except when i was in hospital for a week and i really missed having my brother around. we still share a room, were both in the same classes and we both get brilliant grades but she says She wants to do it because she says we need to learn to be apart and because our teacher can't tell us apart. We've tried talking to her and all she says it's for our own good. we don't want to be split up, is there anyway we can stop it happening?

Answer 1

Obviously when you grow up you will have to split up... so maybe she wants you to get used to it so you wont get hurt even more when you get older.

Answer 2

you will soon become an adult dont you think its time you went your own way and found your own individuality? i think mums right-shes not splitting you up shes putting you into different schools. I think you need to be reminded that you are two people not one

Answer 3

Sit your mum down and explain to her why you and your brother would like to stay together, also try to show your mum that you can be independent without your brother by doing more stuff on your own. Hopefully she will realise that you don't need your brother but you help each other and it would be best if you stayed together.

Answer 4

sadly you probably can not do much about it.. I am sorry that she is splitting you up.. i have identical twin daughters and as long as their grades are good i will let them decide.. for the person that said someday you will have to be apart.. not all twins choose to.. i have known several twins who have lived together with their husbands/wives and their kids and dont plan on stopping personal choice comes in play as they get older.. but just really try to talk to your mom.. maybe agree to take different classes and be at the same school?

Answer 5

What does your dad think? Maybe you should talk to the school counselor. maybe he or she can help.

Answer 6

You might ask your school counselor to talk to her about the pros and cons of splitting the two of you up.  

At age 14, and having always been together, it is not surprising that you depend on each other so much.  As you both get older and find other friends and interests you will naturally spend less time together, but that does not mean you will be apart in the real sense.

Ask your mom for a little more time before she moves one of you off.

Answer 7

It is for your own good. You can't always be around your brother. What about when you both get married and lead your individual lives? You need to start being independent, and your parents are right to want to separate you.

Answer 8

If she says, then yes but I think that's cruel at your age.What kind of a mother would do that?

Answer 9

i think you should try to talk to your mum about why you do not want to be split up and if she is still worried about your teacher telling you apart get name tags in different colours.

Answer 10

That is really crumby.  Try sitting down with her and see what her problem REALLY is.  It is likely more than just the teachers wishes.  

Good Luck!