Is there anything wrong if I value a virgin guy?

Question

idk what's really happening in world nowadays, if people started to think that those who are not virgin are greater than the virgin ones. to me, virgins are those who aren't easily tempted for meaningless sexual relationships, especially when he or she is considered attractive (especially if it's a man). it's a symbol of strength, pride and self-value to me but i don't know for most of people todays; (virgin= passivity, weakness, and unattractiveness?). speaking of greatness and power, it's all on one's self drive to stay on attitudes that build confidence; though many that made it are happen to be those who also lose their virginity before marriage, but certainly it wasn't losing virginity that had made them great but the confidence itself. so, how do people actually view virgins? I'm more keen on female's views.

hope that I'll still value virgin guys as how it had been, and my definition of virgin are not those who never have s*x, but those who don't use it outside of marriage.

Answer 1

"Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet,

"When God Writes Your Love Story," Eric Ludy,

"Sacred Psychology of Love," Marilyn Barrick, Ph.D. are worthwhile.

s*x relates to inner child, which is soul.  Promiscuity obscures one's inner child, hence the more sexual partners, the more one has a figurative paper bag over one's head, like being "lost in a crowd."

Answer 2

Interesting to hear, since I'm one of those guys! Back when I was dating, it was a strange thing to a lot of the girls I went out with that I wasn't trying to sleep with them as soon as the date started.

It was tough sometimes, and there were times that I wondered if there was something wrong with me for not trying to (I mean part of my mind DID want to very badly), but in the long run it's had a very positive effect on my life.

Ex girlfriends I keep in touch with are close and trusted friends now, as well as their boyfriends, husbands, and others. All in all, I'm glad that I did what I believed, even if it was frustrating at times.

Answer 3

YAAAAAAAAAYYYYY finally someone else who loves the idea of not having pre-marital s*x. I love virgins they're so pure and cute. I can't stand promiscuity, especially when the person claims to be Christian or some other religion.

s*x ruins and ends lives.

Watch out people.

Answer 4

Personally I don't think virginity should be valued at all, in either men or women.  It's just as hindering as valuing s***s (both genders).

BUT I do value steady monogamous s*x.  I think people should have s*x when they are in stable relationships and have gotten to know the person well.  This doesn't mean they have to be married, though I don't oppose waiting for marriage either.  I just think people should be more careful about who they have s*x with, not whether they have it or not.

Answer 5

I have never had the pleasure of s*x with a virgin.  And, everytime I think of having s*x with a male virgin, I get like serious heebie-jeebies that it's wrong somehow, maybe pedophillic or something, or that a younger woman should have him first, something like that.  Many younger men who court me and who say they are virgins say that losing virginity with a more experienced woman is wise and beneficial (not a bad line.)  But, I just can't get over the feeling that it's a little plunderish.

Answer 6

It depends on his reasons I would suppose... Celibacy by choice could be seen as someone having strong convictions and self-value... forced celibacy (there's just no one interested) tends to leave someone with the exact opposite, self-doubt and often willing to conform to the values of others just to feel that they belong...

Answer 7

No there's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 8

The world tries to impose its views on you, even maybe your acquaintences and peer group but I often find the reality of finding a virgin boy or girl and developing a bond with them shatters any societal preconceptions about them being losers or unnattractive or strange. If one has their own mind then they are not easily swayed by bland conformity!

Answer 9

A virgin male is very attractive. Men have a problem with unfaithfulness and being in a hurry to lose their virginity. When a female finds a male who says he waited to lose his virginity it's a bit surprising, but it's good to here. If a girl says it, it's kind of expected or you're looked down on. SO, if this made any sense at all I think your values are SPOT ON!

Answer 10

I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all!

Good for you for sticking to your values in a world that makes decision like this very, very hard to keep to.