Is there anything wrong with someone who's OVERLY obsessed with cars & driving?

Question

I know lots of people who are so FIXATED on being IN CONTROL & driving wherever they want to go. EX: When I had a car, my brothers would yell @ me so they can take over the wheel of MY car & demand being in control & driving MY car for FREE, but then when I ask them to drive their cars, now that I don't have one. The answer is a straight "h**l NO!", even if I offered to pay them gas.

& I even had so-called friends who turned out to be freeloaders & users who would also yell @ me for driving, just so THEY can be in control of my car. How would you deal with this? I have trouble with assertiveness skills.

Answer 1

You need to set boundaries.  What is yours is yours and doesn't belong to anyone but you.  I don't know about your driving situation etc, but if it is your car no one else should be in control.  If you don't want them to drive then you need to start to stand up for yourself.  You need to speak with your therapist about setting 'boundaries" in your life.  You can take "baby steps" but once you start you'll see that you can take control of a lot more in your life and people will stop treating you like a "door mat" and giving you a lot more respect!!!  Get a little backbone and love yourself a whole lot more.  You need to get some self esteem.  You don't love yourself enough.  You are a decent and loving human being, you need to love yourself for who you are and what you are and work with it.  No one is perfect but in God's eye's we all  are.  Love you, do you.  Work on setting boundaries and learning to love yourself more and working on your self esteem.  Good luck!!!

Peace & Love  :)

Answer 2

Tell them that since the car is yours, it's yours to decide who drives it or not. Next time they want to drive it, tell them it will cost them. See how much they'll want to drive then. When someone asks me if they can use my car, I tell them that I'm the only one that can drive it because my insurance company only has me and my husband on the policy. But, if you don't have insurance, you can't use that one. You could try the one word approach. When they want to drive your car, tell them NO. When they ask why not, just keep repeating NO. It's called the broken record. No one likes to hear the same word over and over again, and will soon get tired of it and leave you alone. But, you've got to stay strong and consistent. Don't change your mind. Remain firm. This is YOUR car. Protect it from leaches and freeloaders. On the same side of the coin, don't ask to drive their cars. You don't like them driving yours, so you need to live by the same standards. I would just tell them to get their own car. Cars cost lots of money to run and maintain. And since they're not chipping in to help with your costs, there's no reason for you to allow them to drive it. Whenever I have to use someone else's vehicle (like to pull a trailer or haul some boxes) I offer to pay for their time and gas...whatever it would cost me if I had to do it. That's only reasonable, and being courteous. It's showing respect to the one that you're asking the favor from. These people don't respect you. Why? Because you don't demand it by standing up for yourself. Here's your choices...either stand up and get the respect you deserve, or continue to step aside and let them run your life. It's up to you. You can do it. I know you can. <*)))><

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you. They shouldn't be treating you like that.

You can fight back or just go along with whatever and don't worry about it..