Is there anyway I can overcome this? Please Help!?

Question

I'm really shy around guys that I like, I freak out if they look at me and I just look down and don't know what to do or say, its like reallyy bad. They probably end up thinking I'm weird or something. I've been told that if your always worried about being shy and what people think about you then you will act like that more. Should I just try not to think about it and not to let looks intimidate me? I'm going to be a junior in high school this year and I don't want to have this problem anymore.

I don't know how I can do this. Any advice would be great.

Answer 1

your probably a beautiful girl, take it as a complement when guys look at you. dont get nervous, because you probably make them nervous!! i used to be the same way when i was younger. it wasnt until i actually thought myself that i was beautiful that i gained confidence. be sure of yourself hun :) then the feelings will go away

Answer 2

what happens when you get a new job? first you're scared, then you get good at it, then you get bored of it.

practice saying hi and complimenting strangers. at the gas station, at a stop light, at the mall, at the movies. anywhere.

say hello or compliment them. run away afterwords if you have to. it's ok because every word or phrase to a stranger will be the first, last, and only.

keep doing it. first you'll be scared, then you'll be good at it, then you'll get bored of it.

after that, the next time the people that you actually "do" like approaches you. you won't hesitate to say hello for your fear will be conquered by bordem!

Answer 3

Tips For Overcoming Shyness

Check out the tips in the article on self consciousness, particularly the ones to do with where you focus your attention.



Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.

Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?

Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)

Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.

The exercises and techniques contained within the Self Confidence Course should help with shyness because they focus on what to do to feel confident, rather than how to avoid feeling shy.

Overcoming shyness is about doing the things that allow you to enjoy social situations, not wondering why you feel shy!

from  http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/shyness...

Answer 4

i'm kinda shy too. My advice is to try and get used to being around guys that you don't like, and it will be easier to be with cuter guys. Try to act natural, and it might help if you were with your friends. If you don't know what to say, talk about something at school, or something really funny, once you can get him to laugh it'll be easier too.

Answer 5

Ahh youth.....Its part of growing up.  Shyness wont go away but you will learn how to manage it better.  You need to practice thinking about yourself in a postive way.  Treat these guys as if you dont care what they think.  Trust me a girl that is confident is a challenge....And guys especially good looking ones like a challenge.  

Answer 6

Being shy stinks and when one is, they start being awkward. So times that you're being shy, show confidence anyway. Even if its fake confidence. Ive noticed when I'm with my friends, Im more outgoing and bubbly. So try being with your friends often because they can take away the nervousness/awkwardness/shyness.