Is there anyway to keep my uncle from dying ?

Question

My uncle,who has basically been like a father to me since my own father died when I was 1 is dying himself. He doesn't eat well enough and he only weighs around 108 lbs and I guess his body is in horrible condition since he smokes a lot.He doesn't eat my aunt's cooking most of the time but he would often always eat what my cousin cooks.

But the doctor said they were going to give him some medicine to encourage his eating but said that overall that he doesn't have long to live and that we should give him up to die soon. But I don't think I can handle him dying on me, there's so many things I wanted him to see me do, I wanted him to see me graduate, to go off to college and to have a family. Please, is there anything at all I can do to help him ?

Answer 1

sounds like my aunt, one of them died im not completely sure of what i was very young she was a smoker and stopped eating, Her twin recently died in 06 from infuzema or however its spelt. chances are theres not really much to save him cause the fact he smokes is gonna take alot from him and his lack of eating will cause his system to shut down cause hes not getting the nutrients and such. Smoking can tear someone up. which is why im so scared that my mom smokes, Smoking causes things in ur body like small tumors that can have cancer on them. Basically sooner or later his body will give out there isnt much u can do when this much damage has been done to his system.

thats prob the last thing u wanted to hear. im very sorry. i cant really lie to you and say make him stop smoking things will get better cause chances are they wont.  

Answer 2

Tell him that.  Tell him that you need him in your life.  Cry.  Hopefully he'll be touched and try to stay alive for you.  Good luck.  I hope he's in your life for a very long time.

Answer 3

Sure thing I will collect my team and we will start to search for the fountain of youth this very instant... I just need you to  help fund the expadition with $1,000,000,000

There are only two things you can count on in life... death and taxes.

we all gotta go at some point and we all have to pay taxes.

Answer 4

No we all die sooner or later.  It isn't about you anyway it is about him...make him comfortable and spend time with him.

Answer 5

Tell him about all these things you just said and how you need him to be there for you. It might motivate him and make him feel like he is needed and has something to live for.  

Answer 6

That's so sad. You're lucky to have a family member that you love so much. I truly hope things turn around and that you'll be able to have your uncle in your life for a very long time to come.

Tell your uncle exactly how you feel about him and how much you need him in your life. Tell him that you're afraid he's going to die if he doesn't change his habits. Just be straight up with him about everything. Often people don't know how much they would be missed and are severely depressed themselves. Leading to them not taking care of themselves.

You really need to sit down and talk with him openly and honestly and make sure he understands how much you need him.

Regarding stimulating his appetite, marijuana is often used for this purpose with people who are chronically ill or have life threatening diseases. In Canada, it is used medicinally. I know the situation is different in America (if that's where you're from). It can be boiled with milk and chocolate to help extract the THC and make it taste good. It can also be baked into foods as well. Personally, marijuana makes me feel nauseated, but it works for some people.

I really hope you can sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your uncle. Maybe he just needs to hear something like this from you, or any family member, to realize that he really is loved.

Answer 7

eat something he craves a LOT rite in front of hima dn he will sooner or later want 2 eat something! if that wont work.....start crying adn pleading for him 2 eat.. HOPE ALL GOES WELL....God Bless... <3

Answer 8

Pray for a miracle.

Answer 9

He will be proud of you even after death.  

Answer 10

So wait, it's a psychological problem?

Make him eat! Tell him exactly what you wrote in the last two lines.

Answer 11

If you can, tell him how much you love and respect him, and tell him all the things you ARE going to accomplish.  Tell him you know he'll be there with you watching all the things you are going to accomplish, mostly because of him.

Tell him he's been like the best father in the world to you, and he'll be with you every single day.

Is there any chance of him quitting the cigarettes, and getting nourishment intravenously, and getting better?

Remember, everything is meant to be.  All you can do now is love him.

Bless you both.  Lynn

Answer 12

Sadly, probably not. He's lived His life, & made His Choices- & now it's YOUR Turn, to do the same... Try to spend as much time as you can with Him now- and let the future take care of Itself. The Memories You make TODAY- will make the Future easier to bear... Hang in there, & good luck!  :)

Answer 13

why does he need medication to help him eat? is this a medical condition or a psychological one? how old is he?