Is there ever a "PERFECT" time to have a baby?

Question

So, I have been boggling my mind over this for the past few months or even a year now. My husband and I really want to have a baby next year. We feel like it is the perfect time for us...well, as perfect as it can be for a while. He is in the military, so he has a pretty stable job, and great insurance. We own a townhome and have a new car..he also has an old truck. Anyway, I decided to go to beauty school because school is just taking me forever because I can't ever make up my mind, and it is hard with a deploying husband when my mind is somwhere else. Beauty school always sounded like fun to me, and I figured that there is no reason I can't continue my education later on down the road when my kid starts school or something. That way I at least have something behind be backing me up. Right now I do not work or anything, but Im about to start working as a medical trascriptionist to bring in some extra money for a baby.

I feel like I am doing the right thing, and I am really excited about it. We don't plan on getting pregnant until the start of next year, so I will be half way through with beauty school, and only about 4 months pregnant when it ends. Then, I can maybe get a part time job...or I can always wait until after the baby is born.

Our other dilema is that my husband might get out of the airforce in about a year and a half..which would be great, but we would move, so that is another reason I might not get a job right away.

But, I am really just trying to be more realistic lately. I am a huge planner, but it seems like I have just so many things that come up that I think I might as well go ahead and get pregnant because that is the most important thing to me!

What do you think?

Answer 1

Life and our economy are too unpredictable to know for sure that everything will be "perfect"   If everyone only had a baby at the "perfect" time, none of us would be here.  If you and your husband are secure in your relationship, have jobs, and want kids now, then it is the "perfect' time for you.  Good Luck and many happy years to you.

Answer 2

You answered your own question at the end.  If you love eachother, and haviung a baby is the most important thing to you... then get pregnant and have a baby.

Answer 3

If you keep second guessing your self you will never have a family.  Financially you will never be ready.

Linda

Answer 4

I don't think there is ever a perfect time to have a baby. It sounds like you're in a great marriage, with a stable lifestyle, and if you're ready to bring a child into this world then I say go for it. It's a huge choice, but it's the most amazing thing in this world to be a parent.  

Answer 5

going to school or getting a job before having a baby sounds like a good idea. ? if he is thinking of leaving the airforce would you be done with school? at the beginning of pregnancy you may be really tired or sick a bunch . would be better to finish school then get pregnant.  

Answer 6

There is no p-e-r-f-e-c-t time to have a baby. Have a baby and make them a priority in your life and you will find a way to make everything work out. As long as you and your husband love each other and love the baby.

Answer 7

the perfect time to have a baby is when you can afford it. if you can afford to clothe, feed, shelter the baby then why not.

Answer 8

I say go for it. I mean, hubby and I were ready for a baby almost 3 years ago but it JUST happened. We tried for almost 3 years with no luck and now I am 9 weeks pregnant and couldn't be happier. It will happen when the time is right I guess. Even if you got pregnant now things would still work out...the baby would just be an extra family member.  

Answer 9

sometimes u have to just go with the flow now i am 28 with 2 boys 3yrs old and 6 months and married for 5years.and i felt like no better time could have come in my life to have my kids the first was planned the second a huge surprise and i like surprises. so surprise ur self and just not worry about a thing and have a baby or babies..LOL. i was in college i completed my first year when my second came along. sometimes we have to rearrange our lives to have kids or support them. like my mother always say babies don't change a thing u can always do what u want to do with them. it sounds to me that u have a supporting husband so give him what he wants and be happy.

Answer 10

there is never a perfect time to get pregnant. there are so many unknowns, it's just not something you can plan around. if this is what the two of you want, i would do it.

good luck.

Answer 11

there really isnt one. consider this.. if its perfect now for a baby will it always be that way? things always change. if you have a job and are ready for the emotion and other things go for it. but dnt expect anything thats the beauty in having a child, u dnt kno wat to expect it an adventure. but "be prepared to have your heart walk forever about outside of your body" a  great quote by anne geddes  

Answer 12

I would say start trying NOW!  It took me almost a year to get pregnant this last time, so just because you would like to be pregnant doesn't mean it will happen right away.  Also, take advantage of that insurance!  My husband was in the Navy and the insurance paid for everything for me and my son.  This time, it looks like just for the "delivery" and my stay at the hospital it's going to cost around $2,000 which is being reasonable (so everyone tells me.  My sister in law told me her friend has to be $7000), plus there will be all those doctor visits and shots for the baby the following year (don't forget the prego appts for yourself, too).  

Anyway, I'm a planner, too.  My son will be 6 and 1/2 by the time this baby is due.  I waited to have another baby because I didn't want to be pregnant while he was on deployment, then we were moving and he was getting out of the Navy, then we were getting ready to buy a house.  In my experience, there never is a "perfect" time, you'll always  do what needs to be done to make things work.  I kind of wished I hadn't waited so long for this baby because they will be so far apart and if I could I probably would have done things differently.  Anyway, best of luck to you!