Is there free info the daughter i gave up for adoption looking for me?

Question

i gave my daughter up 18yrs ago and i of just want to know if she is looking for me. Does anyone know of a site that won't cost me $$$? How to find info about her?

Answer 1

if you know her name a good place to start is myspace.  i know it sounds weird but a lot of people who are searching for others have found them on myspace.  considering she is 18 there's a good chance she has one.  Hope you find her!

Answer 2

what is her name??

and go to free people finder or type in a phone number or an reverse address baby.

Answer 3

Many excellent suggestions given above to sites you should check out.

Here's another I wanted to add -

http://registry.adoption.com/

Get your name out there as much as you can.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

you need to go into a website- anything with adoption and register your information. if she is looking for you she will find you that way. good luck.

Answer 5

Write a letter to your daughter through the adoption agency that you used, if she has also written, they will match you. That is free.

My sister found a search angel who helped me. They remain annonymous. Also while I was looking I contacted locate me.com, I got a list with all the people born her birthdate 1972 in my city and state, that cost me 50.00. That was a few years ago. Good luck in your search, my reunion has turned out pretty good. Nothing is perfect. Be prepared for the best and the worst.

Answer 6

There are a lot of adoption registry sites out there you can check out.  Do you have any info about her?

Answer 7

I do not know the state in which you live, but turning 18 or 21 does NOT guarantee an adopted citizen the right to his or her birth or adoption records.  Only Kansas, Alaska (both of which have NEVER sealed records,) Oregon, Alabama, New Hampshire and Maine have laws that allow adult adopted citizens unrestricted access to their birth records.  Some states, like Tennessee, allow access to some adopted persons only.

That said, as others have mentioned there are many registries that can help you to hook up with your daughter.  Adopted persons do have an easier time finding natural parents than the other way around, mainly because adopted people usually have both their first and last names changed upon the adoption.  However, there are natural parents who have found.  

Your daughter is an adult.  She has the right to the truth, whether she has heard the truth from her adopted parents or not.  Don't be guilted into avoiding your search or being honest with her.  Again, she is an adult -- her own person.  It seems to come as a surprise to many, but yes, even adopted citizens can handle the truth.

Answer 8

Try checking with the agency first.  One really great thing you could do for her would be to leave something with the agency...a letter, or some photos, so that if she does contact them to get information, it shows her that you care and are interested.

If your state is one of the 44 closed-records states, check to see if there is a form that you can fill out to give her access to her original birth certificate.  If you make these small gestures, believe me, she will appreciate it.

Answer 9

You could start with the Soundex reunion registry.  It's a long shot, but it's free.

http://www.isrr.net/

Answer 10

I work for the state and honestly she will have better luck finding you than you will finding her. I would put my information out there in as many spots as possible with as much identifying information as possible about the child. For example if you have a name and a state or anyhting like that I would try there first. Just pray that she happens upon the information that you have put out there.

Additionally, Just pray that she has had a full and great life. She may not know that she was adopted and although you are her bio. You really do not have the right to tell her that. Let her live her life and if she wants to find you she can when she is 21.She will then be allowed to have access to her adoption records. Unless you signed the form forbidding it. Sorry but stay in prayer and just wish her well.

Answer 11

There are a bunch of places to start.

Start with the state she was surrendered in. Here go to http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?... and click on the state she was surrendered in, ( almost all states are finished they will be soon ) Then find the registry, non id, possibly identifying information and how to contact the state to get it all.

definately register with www.isrr.net and the first step for you would be to leave the best trail you can. register with classmates.com maybe track her on myspace once you get a name to trace her too....good luck!

Answer 12

You gave up your daughter for adoption and you're concerned about spending a couple of bucks to find her?  Maybe you are better off leaving her alone if you're such a DEADBEAT!!!

Answer 13

roxanne u tell them i agreeeeeeeee

Answer 14

Contact the agency that handled the adoption.  Let them know that you are open to contact.  They may also have a reunion registry.  You can sign forms allowing your daughter access to your information.  

Contact the state the adoption took place in.  The state may have a reunion registry as well.  Add your information and the details of your daughter's birth in the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR) at http://www.isrr.net/about_isrr.shtml

Tennessee, along with Kansas, Alaska, Oregon, Alabama, Massachusetts & Maine allow adult adoptees to obtain a copy of their original birth certificate.  However, on OBC won't provide the adoptee with your current address or name (if changed by marriage).  

Good luck!

PS  In the US adult adoptees are NOT allowed to have access to their adoption records at any age.  And are only allowed a copy of their OBC in the 7 states listed above.