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Is there love after divorce?

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I'm getting divorced and I'm 38 years old. My son is 18 now. I'm afraid I will die a lonely old spinster. Is there love after divorce? I don't even know where to find a man after being with my husband for 11 years. I don't even think I know how to be on a date anymore. Is this normal to feel this way.

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of course.

there's plenty of love out there.

it all depends on how you intepret it
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yes ... YES...I was married for 16 years when my divorce was finalized, I I was just about to turn 38. I found the love of my life and got married a year later... and its TRUE LOVE... Im at peace with my life for the first time EVER. I KNOW he loves me... with the first marriage, I never KNEW he loved me,,, its so different when you FEEL loved. Take your time to heal and dont be afraid to start dating,, but you do need to take some time to learn who you are again.
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Its normal to feel that way for a while. You will be O.K. 38 is not old at all. Chin up as they say.
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Yes, this normal. But you just get back in the saddle again, and go for it. Do not let a divorce now, ruin the rest of your life. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just be true to yourself and you will find a wonderful mate for you, if that is what you are looking for.
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love yourself 1st

the rest will come
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Absolutely.  I just went through it myself, so I know how you feel about it being hopeless.  But just take it slowly and when you feel ready.  It'll happen naturally.  If you try to force going out on dates before you're ready, you'll just end up feeling worse about it all.

One of the best things I did after the divorce, was just going out and hanging with friends.  That's how I ended up finding my boyfriend, once I decided I was ready to start dating again.
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Yes Yes Yes!! You're still young and you have raised your son. Don't rush into a relationship. Enjoy being free and single again. It is tough out here when it comes to dating but you can find a good man. Life is what you make it. If you feel like you're going to die an old spinster than you are. Get some counseling for your divorce and put God in your life and he will lead you in the right direction. Stay positive and keep positive people around you.
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at first it may appear theres no future, divorce hurts and makes u fear the future. but in time it will pass,and u will find someone who loves u again,your still young and the right man will come into your life, u could find a nice person in church, but u will not find him in a bar.
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very normal.. and as far as dating its easy.. if you hit it off with someone just be yourself and the rest will come
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Absolutely normal! And yes, u will find love. Just remain confident, don't hide in ur home and be optimistic!

38 is the new 25! U r way young!

Best of luck!
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Sure it is. Don't worry about it. I love you right now!
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IM 38 TOO AND ITS TOUGH WHEN YOU ARE USED TO BEING MARRIED BUT TRUST ME...THE 2ND YOU STOP AND LEARN WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT AND WHAT IT IS YOU LIKE TO DO CAUSE NOW YOU DONT HAVEA HUSBAND OR SMALL CHILD---LOVE WILL PRACTICALLY KNOCK YOU IN THE FACE..
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Of course it is. This is just a hard time,there are plenty of men out there and you'll probably feel more alive than ever! Good Luck and don't lose faith!
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you wont die alone! there is life out there, you just have to get out there and live it.
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It's absolutely normal.

Your going through what we've all gone through.

Just give it time & space.

Start getting back into shape.

I know all of your hopes, dreams and goals have been wiped away and it sucks. Just know, you are not the first one to go through this. That's something you are going to learn over the course of the next year or so.
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Don't you worry. I was married for 11 years to Satan. My divorce was finally final a year ago and 2 months ago I married a WONDERFUL man. I am 48 and so is he.

We met on match.com and he lived in my town. We probably never would have met unless we met online. GOOD LUCK! Don't limit yourself.
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