Is there really anything worth living for..?

Question

Lately I've been really depressed..about everything. (Sorry it's so long but if you could read it I would appreciate it......)

My "friends" didn't even try to stay in touch at all this summer. Summer is almost over and I only hung out with a couple of them twice.. and my "best friend" didn't even call once. I used to be great friends with her but now she hardly ever wants to hang out with just me. I mean, am I really that boring to be around?

I'll ask if she wants to eat lunch with me or something and she'll be like "sure, just come to the lockers where we all eat" and I go there but they hardly even talk to me.. so I end up just sitting there listening... I could walk away and I bet they wouldn't even notice.

It also feels like they're constantly tearing me down. (I know this is going to sound like I'm jealous, because I am) They are ALWAYS complimenting my "best friend" on her art and everything else. But with me it feels like they're always insulting me. Last year for example I made an artwork and they were like "Ew omg, what IS that?" When they say stuff like this it really hurts.... They're not even joking around, because they say it in a serious voice.

I'm also really shy so I can't just make new friends easily... and I suck at group activities, presentations, etc... Ugh I feel like no one understands me at all.... I feel like I'm from a different universe then everyone else or something..

So basically I have no friends... I did have tons of online ones (I don't care if you think thats lame), they made me feel happy and like I had somewhere to belong..but even they've moved on, made new friends, don't have time to talk anymore etc....

This is also my last year of highschool.. & I don't even know if my grades are going to be good enough to get into college or not... and how am I suppose to get a job when I'm so shy?

My teeth are so gross.... I have like 4 cavities because I haven't went to the dentist in about 5 years and didn't really care about my teeth when I was younger.. It really hurts to brush, and my gums bleed when I floss... but I can't afford to go to any dentist. There's also a pushed back tooth in my mouth (I don't know what that's called, sorry) but it effects my smile and how I close my mouth, it makes my smile look so weird. I need braces too..but once again I cannot afford them.. and even if I could, wouldn't braces at 16 be..weird?

I also have a double chin which shows when I look down.. I'm not fat at all, but I'm dieting and doing facial exercises to try and get rid of it..but so far no luck. But it's also depressing cause it makes me feel so fat.

I never even seem to have fun... and I don't smile anymore at all (except at school when I force smiles so people wont tease me about being "emo") I don't even have anyone to talk to about all this which is why I'm ranting about it on the internet..

Seriously.. what is there left to live for?

Answer 1

if your friends are going to treat you like that, you need to fight back. not literally, just ignore them and act like there's nothing wrong. trust me, it works.

and besides, if they're always putting you down, why would you want to hang out with them?

if you're worried about your grades, concentrate on that harder than your friends. get into a good college, and things will look up from there.

as far as your teeth go...don't worry about it right now.

my mom has crooked teeth and she's 33, lol don't worry about getting braces.

okay well this probably didn't help much, sorry:/

good luck, and there's LOTS of things to live for!

Jessica<3

Answer 2

Life after high school.  Seriously, at the most, you might keep in touch with one friend from high school.  It's your last year.  F*ck your "friends".  Enjoy your lack of responsibilities before you dive head-first into the college experience and start living.

Answer 3

you can be my friend. :)

Answer 4

First of all at braces at 16 won't be weird because I'm 19 and STILL haven't gotten braces yet and I need them. And I had the same situation as you did with friends..ypu lose touch with friends...I had a best friend since middle school and we just losy touch over the years and I would call and leave messages and she'd call me back maybe a few times and eventaully we just totally lost touch and I know that if she wanted to get in touch ith me before she could have just by calling me back but she didn't so I know how that feels. As far as the double chin goes..it's probably not that bad...I have that too and think most people have that...it doesn't mean you're fat...it's just skin moving. And as far as affording braces talk to a doctor...any doctor...they could maybe give you some advice...or tell your mom that you think you should go to the dentist...I'm sure theres a way to pay for it somehow...insurance maybe? Medicaid...anything...just do some research and i'm sure you'll find a way. And I feel like that soemtimes with friends...they sit with you but don't talk to you that much...tell them how it makes you feel, they may not even know they're doing it. If they continue to do it find some new friends....as far as shyness goes just know that everybody gets shy at sometime in their life...and the worst someone could do is just not be nice and in that case you don't want them as friends anyway. Friends lose touch and it sucks cause I've lost touch with a LOT of really good friends but most people in life only have a few friends that last throughout life. Very rarely do people stay in touch with all their friends...theres a few people that you'll come across in life and you'll still have them yeeears down the road. Just like hair color some "friends" are temporary. Just know that your not alone I went through it.....am still going through it and so are countless other people.

Answer 5

Forget abou those ppl they probably aren't even real friends. There is something to live for its called yourself you owe it to yourself to keep living no matter how hard it gets. You'll make new friends just get aquanted with the person who sits next to you in a class(that you like) and maybe start to hang out with them. If there wasn't something to live for even when you feel like this why would that happen and why would you still be living? because there is something to live for its call you and if you could wait a little bit it will get better.

Adding th wise word of Gerard Way

"Suicide is just pissing your life away"

Answer 6

Yeah there is, to live the life you want to live.  There are things you cannot change, but you will have to live with it, it's part of life.  Those things can be used in a positive way, because those things have taught you valuable lessons in life.

If you don't feel good about your body, workout, a double chin (even though you're not fat) means that you have a high body fat content.  Meaning you may look skinny and have a low weight, but you might have more fat than you need.  In that case, you need to build some muscle, and do some light cardio every day.

But that's what the fun is about living.  It's like playing a video game.  Think of yourself as a character in a simulation game, the game is 'Life'.  You improve your skills, appearance, attitude, by doing things that make you improve on those things.  The more good stuff you do, the more you win.  Some people were born under certain 'luck', some start better off than others, but that doesn't mean that you can't get to where you want to be.

It just means that you were put to have a bigger challenge, and bigger challenges bring bigger rewards.  In moments of despair is when you can get stronger, the stronger you get in life the easier it will be to conquer more challenging stuff.  So, get rid of the negativity, and start seeing reality in a different light.

I strongly recommend you watching The Secret.  Believe it or not, and some people may disagree saying it's bull or nonsense, but it works.  It has helped many successful people, and it has helped me.  See it, believe it, follow it, learn it, be patient about it and you will see results gradually.

Answer 7

First let me say I'm sorry that you feel so bad right now. To tell you the truth my teenage years were the worst in my entire life. It seems like teenagers are ofter very cruel to other teens, I'm not sure if it's a girl thing or a teenage thing.

Have you spoke to your mother at all about the stress you are going through at this time in your life? And as far as the braces go-I worked with a lady that was 47 yrs old when she got the clear braces, so I would say at 16 you're safe.

Really put all your effort into high school now and if you have to go to Junior College first then a University. Life changes so much once you're in college, people start acting like caring humans. The more you practice you social skills in college the more prepared you will be for a job, when it's time.

What are your interests? In college you can join clubs and groups with other people that have your same interests. do you make an effort to ask your friends to go out for lunch, etc or do you wait for them to ask. They make think you're not interested in going places with them.

It sounds like you have some self esteem issues going on ALL of this can be worked on and you can actually grow from these experiences.

Do you journal ever? Not just the negative feelings but all of your feelings. You know it sounds like you might be experiencing some issues of depression also. Do you have a family doctor that you can go to and discuss some of these issues. Also once school starts again make an appointment with the school counselor and get some more referrals of adults that can help you. If you would like to chat more privately you can e-mail me. I have worked with women in counseling for the past 20+ years. I also have a 17 year old grand daughter that I'm very close to and we do a lot together. Liz thinks I'm a cool G-Maw. At any rate, you'll see someday that there is so much to do and so much to live for-GOD BLESS

Answer 8

it sounds like you're just going through the typical drama of high school. life gets a lot better after, in college, even if it's a community college.

just focus on things you like to do like drawing, biking, watching movies, driving, whatever. the only real happiness comes from within. other people are never going to offer you lasting fulfillment. and it really hurts to feel like you have no friends but it's not a death sentence. you can make friends and meet people, even if it happens slowly.

if you are seriously depressed talk to someone about it, even if it's online. it will really help. as far as a purpose for life goes that's completely relative. you can live for whatever matters to you. you're young and life will get better once you have more say in it. what do you want to do after school? do you want to get married and have kids? think about that stuff.

Answer 9

Yes there are plenty reasons to live for and i can name one of them. Live for Christ only he can give you a purpose only he can give you a reason to live. Live your life for him. You can reach people your age that does not have hope like yourself right now. Get to know him

Answer 10

That's high school for you, people generally suck.

Once you're out, things'll look up dramatically, I assure you.

Lot's of people lose touch over the summer, but i'd reccommend actually trying to start activities with your mates instead of waiting for them to come to you, as they might just think you don't want to.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Sometimes the only thing left to live for is the unkown...