Is there something wrong with me or is it my mom?

Question

I am 16. i have a drivers license. my mom never buys me food and when i tell her i am hungry she yells at me and says, get it yourself. i want her to take me to the grocery store because i think it is weird to go alone. i have gone alone when i buy a couple items, but i want to buy alot of stuff - over $150 worth and she won't go with me. i keep asking her but she won't go with me. she usually eats out with her clients.there are always students from my school there just buying a couple things but i live in a smalltown and i am selfconscious around other people from my school,i guess, and i think it would be so weird if i have a huge cart of items myself. my mom says this is very weird and i should go to a psychologist. i ask her to come with me, just for one time, and yet she refuses. we have no food in the house and i am tired of going and getting food. is there something wrong with me? i feel like she doesn't care about me anymore.

Answer 1

Mannn your mom is messed up.that's way mean. It kinda seems like she isn't willing to help you out or that she really cares much and that is super sad. You might just have to stop depending on her and go alone since she isn't willing to help you. It will be weird at first but you will get used to it. And I know how you feel because I hate going places like the store alone. And if you do see someone you know just tell them you mom was busy and asked if you would go to the store for her or something likw that.

Answer 2

I understand feeling weird to go alone, but understand your mom not wanting to go. My mom wouldn't go with me when i got my license. I've done the "household" shopping for my parents (both) me and my sister since.

Try and make it a enjoyable experience... See if you can get a girlfriend to go with you. If you can just make a "day' out of it...even if you can't buy anything but food.  Go to some clothes stores and fun places and than go food shopping and I PROMISE YOU no one is looking at you going "GOD look at the girl with all that food..." I mean most people are so involved with their own shopping that they don't notice.  You can also carry around a "list" even if you get other things on it... that way when people look at you they see a list and know that your prob. shopping for someone else or wouldn't have a list....

just an idea.

I understand feeling like she doesn't care, try and sit down and explain that, even though she feels your insecurity is unimportant, it is still there and real and ignoring it won't fix it.  Ask her to go with you maybe ONCE A MONTH and see if you can turn it into a 'mother daughter' time and again make it more enjoyable...  see if you can take this time and talk, "people watch" and just catch up in eachothers lives while... picking out food.

I hope this helps, and I know how it feels when you feel like your parents are belittling your feelings that they think you should just "get over" but you can't.

You can e-mail me if you want to talk more too.

i'm 20 BTW

Answer 3

honestly, it sounds like she doesnt care about u. even tho u have ur drivers license and probably should go by urself to get a couple things, doesnt mean she can just refuse to get u food that u need. and theres nothing wrong feeling weird about going to the store to get a cartfull of stuff. i would feel weird about it to. and ur not the one that needs to go to a psycologist, she does.

Answer 4

it's totally her fault and if she doesn't want to feed you then go get food with like one of your friends that u know won't rat u out or maybe another family member that won't rat u out to her

Answer 5

It's against the law for her not to feed you. However if she hands you the money to get food then you should enjoy your time. Shopping around in the grocery store isnt that bad Infact I wish my mother would just give me the money to get my own food at the grocery store sometimes...

Answer 6

wow she has to buy you food! thats her job as a mom! well if she wont be responsible then just go with one of your friends and buy whatever you want.

Answer 7

It's her LEGAL job to feed you.

She should be going out and buying the food, or at least handing you the money, and making a list of food that you guys need.

She's the problem, not you.

Answer 8

if u have an older sis or older girl friend go with them :]

and if u end up going alone and someone u know sees u just tell them ur mom is getting something from the other side of the grocery store.