Is there something wrong with me? why cant i associate love and s*x together?

Question

its realy weird.

but i have no idea how love and s*x could be related. to me lust and love are so opposite that combining the two would be like an oxymoron.

for me s*x has always been about lust. and as soon as i get feelings for a girl the sexual feelings go away.

lust is so overpowering at the time that whenever its felt, it diminishes any emotion including love.

so then if its so lustful and primal, then how can it be "making love" when love isnt felt?

Answer 1

Love is felt and it is a feeling that comes from the heart...we get s*x and love mixed up, you cannot make love that's what people say when having s*x. s*x is a physical thing that lust can bring about and when you love someone you quite naturally want to touch them, be close to them, and be intimate,and not necessarily have s*x. hope that makes sense

Answer 2

Love, in the philosophical meaning can definitely exist without lust.

s*x, lust, is a game of Life that brings people together to share intimacy, to accentuate their liking each other and to get physical satisfaction.

Answer 3

"s*x is a physical capacity, but its exercise is determined by man’s mind—by his choice of values, held consciously or subconsciously. To a rational man, s*x is an expression of self-esteem—a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, s*x is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion.

"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because s*x is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . .

"s*x is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. s*x must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because s*x is evil, but because s*x is too good and too important . . . .

"Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man (or woman) of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man (or woman) is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values."

Ayn Rand http://www.aynrandlexicon.com/

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Answer 4

I completely understand what you mean. I mainly stayed in relationships for the s*x and was more of a friend in terms of feelings with the other person. But if I began to really like them I really did not care about s*x.

Then things change. What changed exactly? I found actual love. When you really love somebody you get swept up in the ability to feel so many things for them. You can be infatuated, lustful, mad, angry, and love struck all at the same time.

Answer 5

For many adverse experiences give lewd perverse association with the act of copulation. Love is a pure and scared bond of truth and the penultimate high mankind gains.

Curing this disambiguation is to understand the subtle underlying causes, once interpreted and understood. Love is affiliated with mothers and kindly souls, whilst fornication is linked to lust.

Love is as the air one breathes, it passes indiscriminately through so many beings and pervades the entire world, this life giving breath released or intaken.

It is said to love God or Love, one must be entirely disaffected by the world and focused solely upon the objective, or have acquired an all encompassing love of God’s creation in the knowledge that all contain his Spirit, either or.