Is there such a thing as having two Maid of Honors?

Question

My sister is my moh but she doesn't want to help out with anything.

Answer 1

Yes I have two! Your sister is probably jealous. I think that one of my MOH is jealous and won't do anything. It suck but hurts too! I ahve other who do care so I don't care! Let her keep being a big baby she will look stupid not you!

Answer 2

You could have 2, but it is very messy...but hey it is up to you.

Though you have a clear issue .... that one of the MOH (your sister) is a 'non-performer'. I too had a similar experience when I had 2 Best Friends, but one was so lazy !!! I took a tactful approach, thanks to google!

Remember, the Maid of Honour has the one very important role of coordinating EVERYTHING;

1. The Kitchen Tea

2. The Hens night

3. The Wedding details (getting Bride ready & out of car up aisle, holding bouquet during ceremony, organising confetti, running around at reception to smooth over last minute details etc...)

4. Inventory of all gifts, and arrange for their delivery back to your home.

5. Recovering your wedding gown from the hotel next morning as you depart for your honeymoon.

Clearly explain this to the sister, if she is too lazy then she is 'kicked to the curb' and demoted to a simple Brides Maid, and you get yourself a Best Friend for the proper duties that is required by a Maid Of Honour.

What I did could be a suggestion for you... google 'duties of Maid Of Honour', print them out and say to her ...'I am researching Maid of Honour as part of preparing for the wedding, as it will help me plan properly, to know what to do and needs to be done on the day!', also tell her 'I need to find me one of these' or 'someone to help me do this...I think I will call Sally [Best Friend] who said she will help with all this, the Maid Of Honour Duties' .. Spell it out to her, then completely leave her OUT OF process. Call Sally and go meet Sally and start planning. Bye bye sister.

It is pretty clear. Anyways at the wedding & reception, your guests will quickly know who the 'Maid of Honour' is. Also it would be an OFFENSE to the REAL maid of honour to label your lazy sister as one also!

Remember along with the title comes the responsibility. You don't want to be pulling your hair out on the day, chose wisely.

Chloe

ps: If she is not going to wear a dress on your wedding day, welll you have a bigger issue here also... Good Luck !

Answer 3

I'm having 2. Cuz I tell you what, I wish I would have had a co-MOH when I was MOH for my best friend... she became a bit bridezilla-ish with me from time to time and I could have used someone to share the brunt of that with me, lol

And the extra help would have been good, too, lol... although I did get a lot of help from the other BM's so I really can't complain :)

As for her not wearing a dress... I tell ya, I'm not a dress person myself, but I wore one for my friend's wedding and didn't even complain, I was honored to do it (and she should be too!) :) I even plan on wearing a wedding dress when I get married, so there are exceptions, teehee :)

Good luck!

Answer 4

I was one of 2 Maids of Honor and I thought it was great to have another person to plan and do things with.  We were completely equal though in what we did and the "responsibilities" we took on.

Answer 5

I have two maid of honors.  At first it was going to be a maid of honor and a matron of honor, but my aunt got divorced.  I don't think it matters.  I had two because I love my best-friend, but I know she's lazy, and I love my aunt equally and I knew she'd get stuff done... and help me out.  My cousin also had a maid of honor and a matron of honor.. it's whatever you want now days... so do what makes you happy!

Answer 6

I have two. It helps when one has a psychotic break.

Answer 7

Yes, you can have two maids of honor. But a maid of honor should be the woman who you are closest to, not the one who throws you the best bridal shower. If you don't share that emotional connection with another woman besides your sister, don't make that person the MOH. Just ask your bridesmaids to pitch in with some of the planning and organizing. They will be happy to help.