Is this Considered cheating? I already asked this question but i was hoping for a little more

Question

I already asked this question but i was hoping for a little more insight on it before i make any decisions. My problem is My girlfriend recently told me that she had phone s*x with another man while we were together. The guy she did it with happens to be her best friend for 10 years. She swears she would never have s*x with another man other than me, but i was wondering if what she did would fall under cheating? I told her i would like it if she didn't do it ever again and she said she couldn't promise me she wouldn't and that she felt she did nothing wrong.

Answer 1

Yes this is cheating. No matter what she says if shes willing to do it on the phone she will do it for real. Next she will be jumping in bed with him and say it's not cheating because they are best friends. Dump her and don't look back. Find a girl that will really be faithful on the phone and in real life.

Answer 2

  Yes it's cheating the worse put is she likes it, and will keep doing it even if it hurts you ... So what's good for one most be good for the other.. It's call an open friendship.  Where you can both date someone else . Is that what you want ? If not find someone else, she's not for you.  

Answer 3

I totally agree with RN. You seriously need to get rid of her. If I told my boyfriend that I would not stand a chance in he;* no matter how much he loved me. You deserve better then that, anyone does.

Answer 4

Well, it's obviously not cheating in the normal definition but it definitely warrants making you upset. She should understand that it's worse it was a close male friend because that means that there's some emotional attachment there.

If she can't promise you that she won't do it again, then to be brutally honest, you deserve better. Even if she felt she didn't do anything wrong, if she really cared she wouldn't purposely do things to hurt you.  

Answer 5

While I wouldn't go so far as to consider it cheating if most definitely is wrong. She had the emotional equivalent.

Answer 6

The real question is Do you really want to stay with a woman who will admittedly have random phone s*x with this other guy anytime she feels like it?

Answer 7

It certainly is, in my opinion.  Because while she's mouthing platitudes to you about never having s*x with another man, she certainly isn't very inhibited about talking another man to o****m (and maybe herself while she's at it).

Sorry to say, but if she's that shifty, it's curbside for that wench.

Answer 8

wow yes that is still cheating in my book for the fact she was pleasuring herself with him on the phone while with you which means she was thinking about him.  How would she feel if you were having phone s*x?  Or even an internet conversation with s*x?  Its only masturbating but still she does this with another man.  its s*x emotionally not physically.  Good question by the way.  Tell her you are going to do the same thing.  See how the tables turn.

Answer 9

It's not cheating unless you're married.  Right now is just practice for the real thing.  Obviously, she's not wife material.

Answer 10

I've learned that if it has to be kept a secret then its cheating.and The fact that she says she cant promise you it wont happen again says she cant promise you she wont cheat and you should probably just move on bro

Answer 11

YEAH I would consider that cheating.  If my husband was talking to his "friend" on the phone while jacking off to her he would be OUT of my life.  I mean what was this dude saying to her?  Like . . . now I'm l*****g your p*ssy.  Freakin nasty.  AND she says she can't promise she won't do it again?  LOL!  Get real.

Answer 12

im listening and the dude that answered last is right! It sounds like she is going to keep doing it if u like her to do it or not! U need to tell her to quit having phone s*x. U need to get open communication with her and tell her what she is doing is wrong and its hurting u.

Answer 13

Labeling it cheating or not doesn't matter. You asked her not to do it, and she said she can't promise you she won't. It means she doesn't respect you and that your relationship with her is weak. She's going to walk all over you.

Answer 14

As long as no one is exchanging fluids...it's not cheating.  

What would she do if you were having phone s*x with one of her friends?  Ask her the question.  She'll see what its like to walk in your shoes.  Fair is fair...right?