Is this a bad idea for talk on a first date?

Question

later this week im goin on a date with a girl i met at a friends party last weekend. Im really excited to go but I havnt dated in a long while and Im confused if i should tell her that i am into martial arts and not too far from getting a black belt? I mean she will ask to know more about me and that is one achievment im real proud of but will she feel initimidated by me if I tell her? I would not wanted her to think im some psycho who is prone to violence or something as that is something im so not and hardly mention this to girls. I guess it depends on the individual but would you be concerned if a guy told you that on a first date? (im 23 she is 19)

Answer 1

I rarely talk on a first date. It takes valuable time away from making out.

Answer 2

be proud of who you are, its a huge accomplishment.  if she cant handle such conversation then maybe she isnt worth worrying about.  i would find it cool to date someone like you

Answer 3

The fact that telling her you're close to earning your black belt in martial arts is the first thing you can think of to tell someone on a first date, speaks volumes to me!  It tells me you are proud of yourself in a way that might be egotistical, and it tells me that you have not learned humility from your martial art.

I would definitely not just burst right out with that.  Just tell her you are into martial arts.  If she is even interested in it, she will ask you more about it, and then you can tell her your rank.  From the moment I first began martial arts myself, the first question everyone would ask me is what rank I was.  

Answer 4

Yeah, if it is something taht your really proud of then you should tell her.

BUT don't just blurt it out randomly. (thats a little weird) just be like.

So, do you like sports?

(wait and see what she says)

and just be like, "oh, cool. I do martial arts" and just tell her about it and how long you've done it.

guys who are proud of something they did are really hot.

Answer 5

it is not what u say, its how u say it. i would definitely bring it up if i were u. just make sure u just dont come off wrong and make it as if ur a psycho. and if she mentions that martial arts to her seem violence tell her the positive side of martial arts, such as discipline, honer, a good way to pick up hot girls, a nice ice breaker conversation ect ect... just make sure u start easy and just go w/ the flow... other good conversation topics to start off w/ are common interest. such as movies, music, books, s*x, and condoms =) ... goodluck and most off all.. have fun. and use protection...

Answer 6

totally go for it! its a really cool ice breaker, and dont hide anything youre proud of. thats a great conversation starter

good luck!

Answer 7

I dont think theres anything wrong with talking about that...

hope you have a great time and all goes well.  

Answer 8

I would not be concerned if you told me this on a first date. You should share things that are important to you.  

Answer 9

Martial arts is for self-defense so I hope that she wouldn't think you're "prone" to violence. Nevertheless, if you want to tell her about an accomplishment that you're "real proud of" just do it.

Thanks for asking.

Answer 10

Thats cool...tell her

Answer 11

tell her! you have every right to be proud :)

Answer 12

If she asks, then tell her.  No big deal.  Being involved in martial arts doesn't mean you're a violent person or that you're nuts or anything.