Is this a dumb idea or a brilliant move?

Question

Ok let's say you are really close to your guy friend named Sam. Anyway you are deeply in love with him.

Would it be dumb or wise to ask him if I should tell the guy I'm in love with how I feel or tell him I'm special and ask what he thinks? So that way he thinks you're talking about someone else and he's giving you insight making your decision easier?

Answer 1

Don't do it son.

Answer 2

I've done it before and it worked out in my favor.  Why not try it?

Answer 3

I think it has potential to be a cute and flirty way to tell him you love him. :] I suggest doing it in person though, to see how he reacts. Just be like,"I think I love this guy, but..I don't know if I should tell him or not. What do you think?" Some guys will catch on to this, but others will really think you're talking about someone else. Anyways, if he says yes, then just say,"Okay then. Sam, I love you." If he says something like,"Um, I don't know..", then just nag him about it until he says yes. Good luck. :]

Answer 4

I don't like it...he'll see right through you.  (sorry).  

Answer 5

Dumb idea.

Let's assume you notice that he gets a little bit jealous, because he likes you and would like to go out with you himself, but you just told him you really like this "other guy".

What are you going to do now? Tell him "just kidding, I like you!"? This might work if you do it right away, but if you just wait a single day and ask him on the next day, he's going to think he's the consolation prize, that you asked the "other guy" but were rejected.

Answer 6

it could work. but there's also the possibility that he'll think you like another guy, and if he does like you, he'll know he never has a chance with you and never make a move

Answer 7

ive often wondered if this is a good idea. im scared to do it tho.

Answer 8

this could be good or bad; on one hand he could think you like some1 else and if he secretly likes you he might get turned off.  on the other hand if you tell him and he asks "who is it?" then you can always say "you," that would be cute and he might respond well to it or he might reject it. but i would just go for it if i were you! good luck.

ooo or you could just flirt with him and see what happens.

Answer 9

Just tell him that you like him. LIKE him not LOVE him. If you tell him you love him I'm sure he will completely freak out!! You may think you love him, but I'm sure it's really just lust/like at the moment. But good luck either way!