Is this a form of abuse?

Question

We were all eating dinner. (me my mom and my dad) and my dad said something about their anniversary and i said didnt you just celebrate it back in April, and they said cant we do anything without you, and then i said, I didnt say anything abut that, i dont care what you do. and my dad threw a pork chop bone at me( it was sharp) and i started to cry, and then he came back out because i said that i didn't say anything wrong, and he through a chair at me, is that abuse or is it just anger issues?

Answer 1

Hard to judge, did your mom protect you in any way? If she didn't she's also at fault.  If this continues you should talk to your school counselor and they can talk to you about it and take it from ther.  

Answer 2

How wld u feel if yr Dad or Mum say,:I know it's yr birthday, but  I don't care.

It would be wise to think before u say something. sometimes,u may not realize 'cause from yr point of view , u think he's  behaving rude but think about what u say before he react that way. There is always a reason behind everything that happened.

Your parents include u in their activities* showing that they love u & care/concern for  u yet their beloved daughter showing greatest gratitude by hurtful reply : I don't care ?

If u don't care so how care u expect others to care?

Respect begets respect.  

Answer 3

Yes people don't generally throw chairs . anger issues are abuse issues by the way . Who knows what kind of stress they are under that has set them off , you should try to talk to someone a school councilor or something see if you can get them talked into family counseling .  

Answer 4

It seems as if your parents need counseling.

All this is not normal:

(i) Getting that angry at an innocent remark when discussing a topic as pleasant as one's anniverary.

(ii) Accusing you of always wanting to be involved in the stuff they do.

(iii) Hurling meat bone at others at the dinner table.

(iv) Throwing chairs at one's kids.

(v) Your mother seems to have classic abuse (victim) syndrome i.e. blaming herself or others rather than blaming the aggressor.

I'd call child services. That's definitely not healthy!

Answer 5

Yes that's abuse!  Your parents are insane!  No parent should ever, EVER throw anything at their children or strike them in anger.  Other than a spanking.  You Mom and Dad should be institutionalized.

Answer 6

Its both, its abuse caused by anger issues.

It may have been due to other stresses in his life at the moment and what you said just set him off.

Answer 7

yes that is very much abuse what was you mother reaction to all this, no one does to be treated this way you need to report this to someone outside your family there are helplines, your teachers or even the police you dont deserve to be treated like that at all and anger is not an excuse for behaving like that