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Is this a good reason to stay single?

by Guest64193  |  earlier

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Some young adults get married to spite their parents. I on the other hand, and I'm sure this is not that common, want to stay single to spite my parents. I am so sick and tired of them always pressuring me to "man up" and get myself a gf and then a wife. But to me, that seems like they're telling me that I'm not good enough to make it on my own and that I need some kind of support from someone else. Why can't they just tell me that they're proud of who I am regardless of my marital status. A bachelor is just as viable as a couple, but I guess they just don't understand that.

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  1. Marriage is an institution of the women, by the women, and solely for the women. No one ever benefited getting married but women. That's how they ROB you. Stay single, if you get to feeling "romantic" fly or drive to Nevada where prostitution is legal and SAVE your money and your life.

    Education is the key, the more knowledge you acquire, the better off you are. EDUCATION, not marriage is the key to success and happiness.


  2. Sure, do that.  There is no law that states you have to find a wife, marry, and have kids.... the first two are fine... the last one...uh, no to now lots of people.....

    Some people are just perfectly fine alone, they aren't g*y, they just like it better.   And let's face it, if that is you, nice that you know it... but don't do it to spite your parents, do it because you prefer it that way.  It is who you are.

    It's when people try to fit into a mold that was never meant to be them is when true difficulties begin... trying to be a mom/dad, and the idea of kids is just not on your agenda, for  example.

    If you want mom/parents to stop with the comments you state so directly, "Mom, we've had this discussion before.  It is no longer open for comments.  If you begin again, I will then leave...."     (It's the If....then....contract that any child knows..."If you don't finish your dinner, then you sit there until it is finished..." or whatever.  You get the point.

    And then when she starts in, You get up and say, "I think this is where I leave..."  And you do so!!!!!   Sweetie, you will have to do so only one.... at the most twice.

    She has no idea that it is inappropriate.. and you can never teach her that.. All you can do is TRAIN her, just like a dog or a horse..... training, sweets,training.



  3. Ok, this is an easy one, its not about you and your independence, though they may or may not ever tell you this , its about the grandkids. The fact of the matter is, the majority of parents want to see their kids married. That is the norm for our society. The fact that only 50% of marriages stick may have alluded them. I think they are proud of who you are, they may just want grandkids, and I can guarantee you that they want you to be happy. As a society we are under a misconception that single people cannot be happy. I have a number of friends who have never been married (and there in their 50's and 60's), and are just as happy as I am if not happier.

  4. clean sheets

  5. don't stay single just because you want to prove something to your parents. this is your life, not theirs and only you can life for yourself. marriage is not for everybody and having a partner is NOT for everybody. if you want to work through life on  your own, that's FINE.

  6. It's never good to base life decisions on someone else's opinion or to spite someone.  You live your life the way you want.  Not for other people.

  7. Whether you do what they want because the hassle you or you deliberated avoid doing it to spite them, you're making the same mistake either way. You're being directed by them. If you spite them, it's not what they were trying to make you do, but you're still letting them affect what you do. GTFU. (Grow instead of Shut.) Spiting is childish. Being subservient is childish. Doing whichever you end up doing because it works for you, no matter what they want, is adult. As long as you make reference to them when you ask what to do, you're still being the little kid.

    OR. Next time they're getting on you, tell them you've thought it over, and they're right, and you will settle down with a partner as soon as you can find the right guy.

  8. your parents are old school, recognize that, do what's right for you and enjoy life.

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