Is this a good reason why i dont want kids EVER?

Question

my dad didnt want me and i feel like men are pitiful excuses for human beings, plus men cheat when you are pregnant...also you get stretch marks that arent attractive to most men and the world is very overpopulated...i think i might adopt also i dont want my kids having my hereditary issues...IVE LOST ALL HOPE IN MEN im 17

Answer 1

i would give up you still young i would suggest you give yourself another opportunity

Answer 2

dont give up not all men are like that it was just your dad who was an idiot you can really find some men who are really nice and about strechmarks they are creams you put whenm you find you are pregnant and u will not get them and maybe ur skin is not even like other skin that get them quickly my grnadma had seven children and none of them in sight pliz don't give up on love



All the best

Answer 3

I don't trust men either,my dad is good but I don't know,I've got a happy family(AM) but I have met guys and all of them have been cheating,its impossible to get a good these days,all guys just look and stare at girls and want to sleep with them and leave them.Nothing else.They lie and they don't care.

I HATE GUYS!!

ME.

Answer 4

Yep about 85% of men are nob's, some cheat while your pregnant, some beat you an some verbally abuse you but thats not ALL men.

I've met alot of young, good looking,caring guys who dote on their partner and children...obviously you've only ever been involved with nob's.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say to give up on men. It is hard to find a good one but they are out there. I think it is great for you to adopt though if you don't feel you want children. It will give a child a chance at a good life that their parents couldn't give them. Right now you are young though and might change your mind in the future.

I just wanted to add that yes I have had really bad experiences with guys in the past which made me really hesitate to trust my husband when we first started dating but so far he has been the best thing that has ever happened to me and we have been together for 5 years and he hasn't been unfaithful to me once or even close to it. But I guess I have a long time to wait and see what happens.

Answer 6

You are just 17 and don't talk like it is the end of the world. You will know you like kids when you reach your old years and you will say these " ohh why shouldn't I have kids before? I am so lonely " Why adopt if you can have your own? You know a kid with your own blood is different than a kid you adopted.. Adoption is for those who can't have babies but it is all up to you.. Stretch marks ? naaahh an ugly excuse and invalid .. Why you worried about stretch marks if you gain a beautiful gift your own blood your baby? We all get old and we would look more scary than stretch marks ... hahaha... And so what if it is not attractive to most men? you only need 1 man to get pregnant and that guy would be your future husband who loves you no matter how you look... and lastly, Pray to our Creator in heavens above for guidance..

Answer 7

I've felt that way before. I even felt that men who have kids with another woman should stay with her and take care of the baby that they helped bring into the world. Your mind will change in time. Your going to find someone that you can trust who won't cheat and love you even though you have stretch marks. Pregnant women are very beautiful. If and when you have kids that might have your hereditary issues, you'll love them no matter what the problem. Yet adoption is a good thing, but that will NEVER be your kid and they will NEVER love you like they would with their real parents.

Answer 8

Well, at 17, it's a little early to give up on men. :-)  It really doesn't sound like you've been exposed to too many good ones up to now, but I assure you, there are nice, wonderful, caring, considerate and loving men out there.  I'm sorry your dad was such a dork, but some men (and some women) really just aren't cut out to be parents.

Having children is a very individual decision.  When I was a teenager, the idea of having a baby was somewhat repulsive to me -- I'm not big on pain :-) -- and I always swore I would adopt.  But I ended up married to a wonderful man and my outlook changed -- I wanted to share children with this fabulous guy, and I knew he would be a great father. Just be VERY choosey about who you choose to marry -- the right guy won't care about the stretch marks, will think you are at your most beautiful when you are pregnant, and would NEVER cheat on you.  27 years later, he is still the most incredible guy I know, and I trust him completely and know that he would NEVER break my trust in him -- as I would never break his trust in me.  

Biology is pretty powerful :-)

Answer 9

If you don't want kids, then why are you thinking about adoption? Sretch marks can be avoided just by using cocoa butter on your belly daily. That way your belly won't look like a road map. It keeps the skin smooth and soft so it's easier to expand with the pregnancy.

Just because your dad didn't want you doesn't mean you can't want kids. And there's a world of difference between a DAD and a sperm donor.

Some men ARE pitiful excuses for human beings but not all. Some men DO cheat when you are pregnant...my first husband did when I was pregnant with our 3rd child...and it does give you a sour taste toward their species.

You're young. You have time to find someone who will rock your world. I'm 48...unhappily married...not looking....but dreaming of better things to come.

Answer 10

Not every man is the way you describe them.

You're saying that every single man that gets their partner pregnant will cheat on them, and find them unattractive for carrying their baby?

Where did you get your facts?

You may change your mind one day and realise that having a baby is one of the most rewarding things you could ever do. I think it's so unfair that there are women out there that desperately want a baby, but can't have one...yet there are so many that can, but are too obsessed with the fact that their precious body will be destroyed so they give up their chance, then there's those who wont care for there child.