Is this a normal birthday reaction....?

Question

I just turned 33 today and I am a bit depressed about it all. My life is nowhere near where I envisioned that it would be and I feel like time is slipping away from me....

I told my coworkers to NOT do anything to bring attention to the day, but they went against my wishes and tried to decorate my cube and make a big deal out of it. I already have mixed emotions about it all and my eyes welled up in tears. I just am not feeling this birthday at all and I wish that people would respect it.

I am embarrassed that I cried at work, but you can't stop the tears sometimes (especially when people are egging them on!)

Answer 1

I hear people all the time telling me that their birthday is not a happy one at all

I try to look at birthdays as an accomplishment.

Some people out there wish they could see the day of their 33rd birthday.

Others aren't fortunate enough to have the upbringing to keep them out of drugs and gangs

Others don't live in a place where they have the medical resources to stay healthy enough

And its also another year that you get to work towards your idea of what your life should be

You still have time on your side and you should be taking advantage of it. Instead of seeing it as a negative, degrading thing.

People celebrate birthdays out of appreciation that you are still in their lives.

Join in on the celebration

:)

Answer 2

I can perfectly understand you. It moves one profoundly and hurts badly when our expressed desires are ignored especially when we're not feeling strong. It's nor easy to cope with all the expectations these days,

our own and those of our environment as well as the society. We're supposed to make an effort, be eternally perfect: young and slim and fit and happy while we juggle three jobs, live green and rise perfect children with Mr Big. So, are we really depressed without a reason? Treat yourself with kindness and take the time you need from you blisters on your soul. There will be a next summer and a next opportunity and an new job and a new guy even if you don't give a dime right now. You're perfect. Take my word for it.

Answer 3

Aww, they were just trying to make you happy.  Usually when people say, "Don't make a big deal about my bday"  They don't really mean it.  Do something today to improve your life.  Don't let depresion take over.  33 is still young.

Check out my favorite website

www.morningcoach.com

I have a Ipod and I listen to this podcast everyday.  I love it.  

Answer 4

I know the feeling, however I am only 21, 16 seems a long time ago, however considering when I was 18 I was thrown out and nowhere to live and no clothes other then what I was wearing, and now im just about to start uni i've achieved something, its taken 3 years, and for parts of it i felt like you do now, my 20th birthday i just stayed in bed all day.

Do something for yourself now, write yourself a letter to open your next birthday, saying where you hope to be and what you hope to have done. Seal it, and open it next year and see what happens.

Theres no point thinking, or dreaming, it is up to you to do.

Answer 5

You are where you are, and there is nothing you can do to change that (instantly).  That's not to say you can't have hopes, dreams, and ambitions.  These can be good.

However, you are where you are.  Instead of trying to deny reality and sulking, you should embrace it and be happy that you have people around you who are celebrating where you are, where you are.