Is this a proper way to punish a 17 year old?

Question

OK, please help me explain to my brother that it is not normal that our father still gives him physical punishments (on top of grounding and chores).

He is 17 years old and he is like the coolest and toughest guy in our school and he is a straight A student and nobody knows that he still gets beaten by our dad when he does something wrong.

He usually gets it with his belt or a wooden stick on his back.

My brother says there is nothing wrong with that and dad only wants what's best for him and that it doesn't bother him. I think he;s been brainwashed to believe that because of course it must bother him because his back gets bruised and it obviously hurts a lot. My brother is into sports and is strong and he could certainly take dad physically if he wanted to. But he just willingly submits to this.

I

am 16 and I would still never let dad hit me like that!

Is my brother a m*******t or what?

Answer 1

wow, that's child abuse.

Answer 2

your father is very bad wrong no way should anybody be hit with a wooden stick or anything, I agree with a slap I do not agree with the now mamby pamby society of not touching, he must either stand up for himself or see a teacher or a person in authority to have it stopped.

Answer 3

why is your father hitting him and not you?  something is going on here.  your brother has lost all confidence, he believes he deserves it, that's why he takes it.  you need some outside help with this.  call a child support line, or talk to somebody you trust about this.  your brother needs to wake up and realise he doesnt have to be treated this way.

Answer 4

This is abuse, you should tell a member of your family or someone at school. This is illegal

Answer 5

i think that getting a beating at 17 is not right .. my mother would just ground me from my car and make me clean house or something

Answer 6

yeah. you stand up for him and if you get hurt, that might help him see whats happening to him. he just needs to get up and walk out. demand respect. no matter how bad it hurts.

Answer 7

I'm no longer a 17... but HAD someone tried to hit me with a belt, I would probably make sure that his arm does not work properly again.

Answer 8

That is not right at all.  Punishment is to let someone know what they did wrong and why.  Added chores or depriving a teenager is the appropriate way to punish.  What your father is doing is a crime, called assault.  Some adult relative needs to sit your dad down and smarten him up.  This behavior will perpetuate a chain of violence.  Your brother will believe striking out is the only way.

Answer 9

a parent hitting their child with a wooden stick is illegal no matter what age you are. but that is not normal, any kind of physical punishment over the age of about 10 maximum at like 12.

Answer 10

Your brother is too accepting of this abuse and it has to stop!  He may end up doing this to his own children (when he has any)...thinking he's being a good dad.  Talk to your mom about this...or a school counsellor

Answer 11

That is not right he should not get whipping he should get grounded that is child abuse and I would call a friend or family member to live with until dad gets his act together!!!!!

Answer 12

I am glad that your father isn't hitting you like that.  I don't think any type of physical punishment is right for kids at any age.  I don't think your brother is a m*******t, though.  He must have a good relationship with your father in enough ways that are important to your brother that he doesn't want to lose so it is worth taking the bad part of the relationship.  You are a good sister to be upset about it.  Is there anyone you can talk to?  Your mother, a school counselor or teacher, or even a friend who knows your family?  Is there any chance you could tell your father how upsetting it is to you?  If he only hits your brother and not you, it may be that you could influence him.  Please take care of yourself!