Is this a reason to divorce someone(It's really a mental health question.)?

Question

I'm not married and I don't have kids.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated and really disliked the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Is this a thought that the devil brings to you?Everyone has bad thoughts but as long as we don't yeild to them then we're not bad people,right?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

It's just a thought.I know you all are saying "This is sick and disgusting!".I agree but it's a thought not an action.There are some people who are strong enough to not act on the thought and stop thinking about it.Everyone who has answered this question has once in their life had bad thoughts but as long as we don't act on them,we have not sinned,right?

If you are not going to act on the thought and hated the thought then therefore,you do not want to hurt the child.Why would your spouse divorce you over just having the thought when you have no intentions to hurt the child?Isn't this something that you can work out if you love each other?I also think that I might have OCD.I have a lot of symptoms of OCD such as doing things repititively,bad thoughts and images,being afriad of being contaminated,checking things over and over again,having really bad uncontrlollable bad thoughts about anything and everything,things I wouldn't even act on.I have more symptoms.I'm not saying this is me but what if you are so tortured by the thoughts that you are about to commit suicide because you think that the child will be better off without you.You do not want to hurt the child.It was just a thought that you don't intend to have again.You're not going to act on it either so why should a husband divorce his wife over that?Would you divorce your wife because of all of this?

You're not sexually attracted to your child.It was just a thought,not an action or an intended action.Everyone has bad thoughts at least once in their life!How can this be a cause for a divorce?!?!?Is this a cause for a divorce or something?

While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.I thought any sexual image can turn a person on.You didn't want it to turn you on.It was like a fantasy!You stopped masturbating because of all of this.You didn't want the thoughts anymore so you just quit it completely.You are not tortured by the thoughts but you are tortured by the thought that you had them.You try to block them out!You have no intention to touch the child.You know that it's wrong and think that people who do it are sick.When you were really really young,you watched or ooked for children p**n but you were about 12 but you don't do it anymore because,let's face it,it's wrong and it should be illegal.Would a husband divorce his wife or get her help?Which would you do?

What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it,you love your child.Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?Will the husband still want a divorce from the wife?What would you do if you were the husband?

Now,I can't stress this enough.It was a thought not an action.We all have bad thoughts.Worse thoughts than this sometimes.So I guess if we all told our spouses about all of the thoughts that we had,we'd all be divorced.It's getting to me that no one is understanding this.I know it would be for the child's safety but if you really love someone,you're not going to leave them over a thought.Pay attention to this part:IT JUST POPPED IN MIND,YOU DIDN'T MEDITATE ON IT,THEREFORE,YOU'RE NOT INTENDING ON ACTING ON IT.YOU'RE MEDITATING ON HOW BAD THE THOUGHT WAS.YOU HATED THE THOUGHT MORE THAN ANYTHING AND YOU WISH THAT YOU WOULDN'T HAVE HAD IT.YOU THINK THAT CHILD MOLESTATION IS WRONG AND WOULDN'T WANT TO RUIN YOUR CHILD'S LIFE LIKE THAT.YOU HAVE NO INTENTIONS ON ACTIG ON THE THOUGHT,PERIOD.I CAN'T STRESS THAT ANYMORE.SO,WOULD YOU STILL DIVORCE THE WIFE?

NO RUDE ANSWERS,THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION.

Answer 1

yep, this person needs to have some phychiatry in their life - i would divorce the person because it would put the child at risk. the child may not be at risk now as this person seems to so far be able to control this urge but sooner or later after fantasizing for so long the person would give in and do it - also i would divorce the person because i would have no desire to be married to anyone who even thought of my child or any child in that way it is sexual preditory and it is a mental illness, all child molesters whether in mind or through actions are very ill people

Answer 2

Everyone has strange thoughts. The fact that you are dwelling on it so much worries me. You should be on medication for OCD. It would help a lot- as I can see by how much you wrote and how upset you are about this. The best thing to do with crazy insane thoughts is to keep them just that- crazy thoughts. There is no reason to share them with the world or even your spouse. I promise you, your husband does not share with you all the F**** up thoughts he has ever had.

It's just like dreaming basically. You can't control the thoughts your mind pushes into the front of your head sometimes, and although it can be disturbing, it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. Stop dwelling on it or you are going to think about it all the time!

But seriously, think about getting some meds for OCD. You may feel so much better that you won't even believe it.