Is this a stupid thing to break up over?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend almost three years andhe's the only guy I've ever loved. I'm 18 now and I've been examining alot of my relationships, meaning alot of friendships have gone out the door. As much as I love him and he treats me good, I'm not sure we fit compatibily. I mean he buys me things all the time, does sweet things for our anniversaries every month, takes me on dates, but for example I'm a talkative person. I kind of wish I had someone to talk to every night on the phone that would share things about what they think and their life and feelings. We just talk on AIM usually (though we do see each other every day for a little bit usually) and usually I do most of the talking.

It's just how he is, but I sometimes I wish I had someone who was more interested in me and what I think and shared what they think. Instead of "I just farted" or "The Indians lost again", you know something deeper. Isn't that what relationships are about? Help?

Answer 1

If you feel like you don't have anything in common with him, then that can definitely put a dent in your relationship. I think you need to tell him how your feeling, and see if he can offer your relationship something more then he is now. I think you will find that most men are immature, and they mature slower then women, so it might be a while before you find a guy that doesn't say "I just farted" my husband still says that and he is 30!

I think if he doesn't take you seriously about what your needing from him and your relationship, then it might be time to decide to move on, but for now I would try to just communicate your needs more.

Answer 2

Sounds like you need to find some new interests for the two of u to have in common or you will end up very unhappy or breaking up.

Answer 3

3 years is a long time and i want somebody to listen to me when i talk. i dont want to do ALL the talking. and if you arent interested in hime any more it is time to break up.

Answer 4

You're right in thinking that something is wrong if he's doing all that right and you still feel unfulfilled by the relationship. But it's got to be something more than just him not being talkative enough for you...surely you knew what he was like 3 years ago when you started dating him, so why would it all of a sudden be a reason to break up now.  All I'm saying is, you liked him despite his certain characteristics, you've been together a long time, and from what you say he seems like a great guy and boyfriend...just dont make a decision that is too rash or you'd regret it.

Answer 5

I think you need to bring this up to him, and let him know communication is important to you in a relationship. But if you keep getting the feeling you should date someone else break it off don't cheat cause you don't want to hurt him or you want both cause you'll just get caught and make it all worse. good luck