Is this a weird thing to do?

Question

My husband and I plan on adopting a baby 3 years after our child I am pregnant with right now (in my other question I said a year,but I found out that you have to be 21 to adopt). Originally, we wanted an infant, but now we're thinking about adopting an older child from foster care. Maybe around the ages 10-13. When we adopt him or her, we would only be 21 and 25. If we adopted a teenager, im scared that they will feel weird because there's such a small age difference between me and the child. Im very aware that I shouldn't be my childrens friend, but be their parent, and I feel that I am very good at being a mother.

Would the age difference be weird for the child? How would you feel? Should I just adopt an infant instead? Help?!

Answer 1

I'm not even sure they would put a child that old with you.  

However, I love the idea of adopting a non-infant.  What about someone under 10?

Answer 2

Maybe not adopt a teenager. I know that if my mom were only 7 years older than I was I would feel a little weird. You could try getting a 7 or 8 year old. Maybe that wouldn't be so uncomfortable. Anyway, hope this helps :]

Answer 3

Do you guys have a good financial stability because kids aren't like pets they just give them to anyone. Adopting kids is a tough situation especially when they are older. I was adopted when I was an infant and when I found out I went through a few years with feeling uncomfortable about it so I can't imagine what a child older would feel like.

Answer 4

ummm... I think that would be a tad weird for the kid but I could be wrong. Helping a kid is going to benefit them regardless of their age. just understand it might be extremely hard for everyone to adjust.

Answer 5

Where I live, they won't let you adopt a child that old.  An adoptive parent must be at least 21 and be at least 16 years older than the child.  

Answer 6

They wont let you and yes its weird. Do you even have any children now? How do you know you'll be good? All children are different, very different, and you have no way of knowing how you and your mate will actually respond to a child that is not technically yours. I wouldnt even think about this until you have more than a few years experience.

Answer 7

It would be weird and yeah, I would treat you like a friend. I'd be very... comfortable with you, and not always in a good way. Maybe you should wait.