Is this abusive or am I making a big deal about it.

Question

So I asked my guy a question about something insignificant. I asked if he used the new towel I just hung p on wiping off the cat scooper. I didn;t think much of the question but he got really offended and started yelling at me asking why I would ask such a dumb fu**ing question. Asking if I really thought he was that dirty..and so on. I tried to walk out of the bathroom past him and he grabbed my arm and pulled me back into the bathrooma nd oushed me lightly back into the bathroom. He continued talking loudly and cursing about it. I was shocked that he was so upset about something so small. Then he comes back out later and tells me not to ask him dumb f*ing questions like that anymore. What do you all think about the pushing part? I know that the owrds were bad, but he took it further with grabbing me.

Answer 1

err, it was, yet it doesn't happen like that. It was prolly on account of many things accumulating to this. Talk it out with him, and see what happens from there.

Answer 2

I think if you keep insulting and belittling your husband on a regular basis there is a good chance he will respond by beating you instead of discussing it.

It isn't that question that is bothering him, it is probably the accumulation of other things that are humiliating and insulting him.

The last thing a woman hears before a beating is usually, "If you don't shut up I am going to shut you up."

How much do you both drink and do you both do drugs?

Answer 3

yes that is abusive, no one has the right to put there hands on u not even if it was a light push! I wouldn't have him in your house anymore, and  if he feels comfortable enough to do that then it might eventually escalate to worse abuse.

Answer 4

Yep that is abuse both phyical and verbal

Try talk to him about it on how his behaviour made you feel and if he thinks it is not a problem then leave him

What do you think will happen when you ask a more serious question it will only get worse

Answer 5

You are right to question ,this as alot of women brush off these kinds of behaviors, which, unfortunately, often become worse if not adressed or altogether stopped.  This is most certainly abuse and nobody is allowed to treat you this way...If you haven't thought of leaving this guy, it will probably cross your mind in the not so distant future.

Answer 6

Yes it is

if you even have to ask that question you need to realize the danger you could be in you need to get out of that relationship

yelling at you like that is emotional abuse and grabbing you is physical abuse

I have been abused emotionally and physically

get out of that relationship before you get hurt mentally as well as physically  

Answer 7

Yes, technically if someone touches you aggressively without permission it is a form of abuse. And what he said to you was most likely verbal abuse.

Although it wasn't that serious you should try and talk to him about it, if it happens again something should be done.

No one deserves that.