Is this an appropriate toy for my baby?..?

Question

so my baby turned four last week and my fiance who's abroad with the troops sent our son a birthday present. the set contains three different toy guns, a soldier uniform, and some other peaces that i couldn't define..I'm so shocked and confused, because i find this present being extremely inappropriate for our baby..i mean hes only four and that's like introducing him to violence! i talked to my fiance and in his opinion there's nothing wrong about the toys..he says its perfectly normal for a boy and I'm just overreacting..i still didn't show my son the toys. i don't know if hiding them from him is right or not.I'm not sure what to do. i would appreciate if you guys shared your opinions, especially moms of little kids..help me out a little.

thanks.

i don't know if I'm being paranoid or something..i want whats best for baby leon, you know?

Answer 1

You know, I'm a little torn.

I think the uniform is totally okay. It's great that he can dress like daddy!

But the guns...I don't know about.

I'm a step-mom and probably wouldn't let my step-son play with them in our house (he's too young anyways) and I don't think his mom would either.

I asked DH if he would let Aiden play with toy guns and he says "I played with guns and I'm okay."

His friend (father of two, 3g and 5b) says the same.

I guess we have something to discuss now...

You know, I think he'll be fine. I, personally, don't like it but apparently the male side of this argument is pretty solid.

Answer 2

your son is 4, not a baby.

Answer 3

yrs ago my ex's sister had a little boy she decided he was not allowed guns etc.....

anyway aged just 2 he made his own "gun" out of lego and shot us all.....

he's 19yr old now  and a good kid, never been in any type of trouble etc..  TBH i found it slightly amusing his mother was so against stuff like guns etc but even at such a young age his imagination took over and he made his own..........my own son 1s almost 17 and had guns swords etc, he too is a good kid..

Answer 4

I agree the uniform is okay. Personally, I wouldn't want my kids to have toy weapons.  

Answer 5

I would not allow my 4 year old boy (not even my now 6 year old boy) to play with guns. I don't believe that young boys need to play violent like some people do. I would let him have the uniform but if you feel that guns are inappropriate don't give them to him.

Answer 6

I agree with you i think it is inappropriate for a 4 yr old. The outfit would be cute but not the guns i would hold those until he is older and you can explain them to him. But if i was in your situation i would not allow my kids to have guns. I dont even let my kids who are the same age have water guns i do think it promotes violence regardless what many people say. Your not paranoid just caring.

Answer 7

That uniform is okay, The toy weapons, no. He'll get the idea that using guns when he's older is okay. Just stick to the uniform. As you said, It's introducing him to violence.

Answer 8

My hubby was in the military and he also doesn't see the problem with toy guns and things. In all honesty, the uniform is fine, but it is your decision whether to let him play with the toy gun. If you are so uncomfortable with it, then you probably already have your answer.

Answer 9

I'm with you on this one and our son was never allowed to play with guns either. He's almost 16 now. But at the age of 4, they are so impressionable and don't have the concept of violence/war/death. Maybe hang on to them for a later time, but I don't think encouraging games of war is a healthy thing and your fiance should respect your wishes on this one!