Is this avoidant behaviour?

Question

Whenever, my mother and I talk about something that has happened, in the past, she always seems to paint my behaviour, in a negative light, and then when I clarify to her what really happened, and that I actually found her behaviour to be very negative, she suddenly stares off into space, easily becoming distracted, by something on tv.

Answer 1

what you are saying that is "natural".

  we call it as "generation gap".

  without that "how life become spicy ?"

Answer 2

I wouldn't be able to make an apt judgement unless i had a specific example, but from what i can tell i don't think your mother likes to remember the past.

It would be best if you did give me a specific example.

Answer 3

it sounds more like denial, or like a different perspective on things.

Answer 4

My mother is just that way and it so puerile. I have to say, your mother sounds very immature and I am sorry you have to the adult as such in this scenario