Is this bad? help!!! ?

Question

ok so ive known this guy for like a year now.

we just like talked and talked and havent done anything

physical, but we always felt like we really connected

with each other. ive kissed him a couple times here and

there, thats it. well we hadnt talked for like two months,

after we had a bad argument. i got a new number and he

asked for it over myspace, is how we started talking again,

like two weeks ago. so this weekend was the first time ive seen

him in a while. we kinda got physical and it went all the way.

i was with him all night and day, until earlier. my problem is,

i miss him sooooooooooooooooooo bad!!!!! i feel like its like

unhealthy how i miss him so much. were not 'official' or anything,

because we're both very busy, so idk how serious its gonna get.

to be honest, he deals and uses weed and sometimes coke.

i KNOW thats horrible and should be enough reason to drop him,

but i CANT! hes an amazing person otherwise and nobody compares

to him.

so my question is, do you think maybe i miss him so bad is because we did the dirty? i havent been attached to a guy afterwards like that ever. i feel like i NEED him... is that bad or like, unhealthy?

were at points in our lives where we dont know what we want.

should i like stick with him, or give up????

any help, or thoughts, anything please!!! im pretty bored too,

so anything to talk about??? i just really want to talk to someone about this.....................

Answer 1

I think the reason you're feeling that way is because you already went all-the-way with him. That's the unfair part with us girls. We lose a lot if we offer ourselves wholly to a guy who's not even our husband. Maybe that's the reason why you always miss him. Maybe because "something" already happened between the both of you, you feel so attached to him.

I would like to remind you that s*x is sacred and is only supposed to be done by married couples, so that they would be able to see also how much they love each other by means of creating a family (the main reason why s*x is present in a marriage).

Sometimes, as a girl, with so much to lose, you must also use your head in weighing things. Stop being shallow by always using your

heart. It's your heart talking that's why you're still willing to accept the guy even if he's doing some negative things.

Use your head, too. Is he a boyfriend-material? Do you think he can take good care of you and even reciprocate the feelings you have for him? Respect you and all? Those types of questions.

Relationships are more than just sleeping together.

Using both the mind and heart always works best.