Is this bad....me and my dad....?

Question

Are i a fight.....PLEASE READ CUZ I NEED HELP.... Me and my dad always get along but once he gets in a fight with my immeidiate family members he doesnt talk to me for months at a time.....so last june of 07 him and my mom split and they havent talked since but recently lik elast month we got into A HUGE FIGHT and my mom got mad and my mom and him were going back and forth and then just like last week they worked it out and now they are "In Love" again and my mom and sister keep begging me to talk to him but i tell them like 10 x a day it was wrong 4 him 2 just cut me off like that im his daughter i need my dad but im just so done with his shadyness and his aditude he needs to get it and now he is sorry but i just dont know what to do any more ADVICE PLEASE.....NO RUDENESS.....

Answer 1

deep down i think you do wanna talk to him again but your hurt at what he did and u have every right to be.....so the question is this can u leave that in the past and move on with a relationship with your dad? or....is it to late? have a really good long hard think and i think you'll get your answer....good luck

Answer 2

I agree, he was wrong to cut you off.  However, he is always going to be your father, and you sound like you are still hurt, so I am guessing you still love him.  What are you gaining by punishing him further?  Does it make you feel better?  Does it make him feel worse?  Does this bring happiness to your family?  I am sorry your dad cut you off like that.  Instead of welcoming him back with open arms, maybe some baby steps would work out, and get the rest of the family off of your back.  First off, you need to let him know how you feel.  If you are like me, writing a letter telling him how much he hurt you would be a start, and tell him you need at least an apology to start that journey to forgiveness.  Be upfront and honest, and let him know that you are afraid to open your heart to him again because he stomped all over it.  Let him know it's going to take some time for you to forgive him and be accepting.  Overall, you will feel so much better once this drama is concluded, and you and everyone can go on with their lives.  I don't know if this is an option, but maybe you and your dad talking to a counselor might be a good idea also.  Blessings on you and your family.

Answer 3

You are right in thinking that your father's behavior isn't good. He is behaving in a very immature way, and it sounds like your mother is more interested in keeping him around than in what he is doing as a parent.  (Ask her to explain why you are supposed to talk to him when you are angry with him, when he doesn't talk to you if he is mad at somebody else.)

But if you are old enough to write this, and your parents are still acting like 5 year olds, these are the parents you are stuck with. Your desire for your father to get it is what is causing your suffering.  He's probably not going to get it.  Take a deep breath. Your job is to grow up into or to be a good, kind, resourceful, educated, compassionate, mature, productive and  happy person despite your parents.  

Assuming you are still in school or college:  Spend time with friends who have more sense or whose parents have more sense. Spend more time doing your homework and at the library.  Read the newspaper.  Get involved in a time-consumer afterschool activity. Try out the school counselors.