Is this bad wedding etiquette?

Question

Is it rude to be a guest at a wedding but want to go in the bridal car?

Reason why I ask is because when I got married two months ago, two guests (man and wife) wanted to jump in the car with my new husband and I to go to the reception.

Answer 1

yes it is very rude, those are the first moments as man and wife and it should be private time together. we had photos taken on our own before going to reception and it was lovely.

plus we had champagne in the car to  drink

its tough they should ask another guest for a lift

xx

Answer 2

no way.  There is a reason you get a car to yourself.  Its suppose to be your our time of the day.  And really the only time you get to relax.  

Answer 3

No one but the new couple and maybe the apretns or bridal aprty should be in that car!  

Answer 4

lol THAT is something new to me...who were these people??? I can't imagine anyone not knowing that limoid exclusively for the newly married couple...wow,what chutzpah...I hope some told them how very, very inappropriate that was......yup, very, very bad wedding etiquette.

Just outta curiosity, how exactly was that handled......details, please.

Answer 5

Yes, it is rude to ask to go where you have not been invited. It might have been the need for a free ride, or  bit of inability to drive to to injestion of some kind of depressant, or it could have been a little thrill seeking. The bride and groom used to drive around town and honk the horn of the car to tell everyone they are now married. I gather that's not done anymore.

Even a little bragging rights could have been the reason.

And you have the right to say no. If you had a limo, you paid for it for a specific reason. You wanted a moment to chill before the reception, and you should have it.

" Gee, Dan and Jane, I wish you would have spoken to the best man that you needed a ride, he would have been happy to help you." We are going to go take pictures, we will be awhile."  Would have got rid of them.

Answer 6

It is very bad etiquette. I hope you told them no! Hope you had a great day and that you have a long and happy marriage.x

Answer 7

No manners whatsoever!

Answer 8

That is extremely rude. I have never heard of that happening at a wedding and I hope that you refused.

EDIT

Don't listen to ascoile,  he is clearly very ill mannered( the type of person that would ask for a lift). The ride to the reception is the first chance  to be alone that you and your new spouse will have since getting married. It's a hugely significant moment and you need some time to take it in. The people asking for a lift are encroaching on this time which is incredibly rude and thoughtless!

Answer 9

Oh yes.

Yes it is.

Very bad etiquette.

But then, some pricks will do anything for a free ride.

I do hope you pushed them out of the car with suitably disgusted faces.

Answer 10

Yes.

It's The Bridal Car For A Reason... For The Bridal Party.

Answer 11

Yeah that is a little odd, usually it's only the bridal party, and sometimes they go in a separate car, did you know them very well??

Answer 12

Yeah, that's bad.

Answer 13

Yes, that's very rude. Unless the bride or groom offered to give the guests a ride, they should never have jumped in the car. They should have made arrangements with another guest to share a ride to the reception.

Answer 14

Polite people don't invite themselves to parties, tell a hostess how to plan her party, etc. That includes inviting themselves into the car with the bride and groom. These people are playing with an elevator that doesn't go to the top floor!

Answer 15

You don't even have to ask to answer this one.

It is extremely rude and inconsiderate for those two to do have done that.  As much as they want to celebrate, it just showed that they have no manners and were trying to get a nice, free ride.  

I hope you kicked them right out of the car.

Answer 16

Not to good.  Probably friends or family of your husband.  

Answer 17

That's bad - but on the other hand they could have insisted they jump into bed with you both on your kinky gang-bang wedding night!

You should have offered them SEXUAL INTERCOURSE with an internal cream pie!

Answer 18

It sure is odd! I can imagine wanting to get in the car (like, oh wouldn't it be nice to ride in a limo), but to actually try to get in is really weird. All I can say is some people are clueless.

Answer 19

Ya think? Of course it is rude.  If you aren't in the wedding party then you don't go in the limo.  If someone wants to go in your car and they aren't in the bridal party then you tell them no and that you will see them at the reception.  Going in the car would be rude and obnoxious.

Answer 20

Yep, totally rude! This was your momemnt as man and wife and they should have arranged their own transport before hand! I have never heard of that happening.

I did try to make sure that all my guests had transport before the wedding but I guess you can't account for everyone!

Answer 21

Totally unacceptable  How rude can you get?

Answer 22

That was very rude.

Answer 23

uhm, yea! Thats pretty rude! I dont know what posessed them to want to ride in the car with you....didnt they have a ride? You dont car-pool with the bride and groom unless they ask you first! I hope you told them to hitch a ride with someone else!! People are crazy, arent they?

Answer 24

It is really rude. It's not their wedding day it was yours.

Answer 25

You should of hit them!! thats terrible!!

the car should have been for you and your husband!!

Answer 26

I've never heard of anything so rude in my life!!!

It's your special day, and you have been gracious enough to invite these people.

It's the equivalent of them asking if they can cut the cake with you!!!!

Answer 27

As they were guests and had most likely given you expensive gifts and given up their time to attend, then the least you could do was give them a lift.

I think that was bad mannered, especially if you had spare seats.

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Answer 28

yeah the car migth be full or you'll want a moment for yourself etc

the guest are sesponsible for their own lift unless they cleared it with you beforehand

Answer 29

This is very unusual. At my wedding the second car for the bridesmaid and groomsman broke down. The reception was being held only a few blocks away so I said jump in with us. But that was the bride and grooms decision.

Answer 30

Absolutely unacceptable, unless really, really asked by bride AND groom.

Answer 31

Wow -- that is extremely rude, and strange.  This is one of these scenes that makes one want to ask "WHAT were they thinking?"