Is this boy obsessive? Is this some type of disorder?

Question

There is a boy who is overly obsessive over my friend. He claims he loves her but we are only just entering the eighth grade. He says he is suicidal and whould kill himself if he ever lost her. After she didn't talk to him for just two days he started freaking out, and I could've sworn he way crying on the phone.

They went out once, but my friend broke up with him. That was months ago but he can't seem to get over it.

How do we deal with this? Does he have some type of obsessive disorder? All he ever talks about EVER is how he hates his life and how he is suicidal....

So is this a disorder? How do we deal with this?

It's causing my friend a lot of stress.

Answer 1

hes not obssesive nor does he have a disorder its most likely a very heavy case of infatuation it should pass but do keep a close eye on him he might do something you didnt expect (suicide) if hes still obsessed dont cut him  

Answer 2

According to a survey, many people commit suicide as young as 6 years old. You should take him with you to a school counselor and really get some help. The reason I'm not suggesting for you to tell his family this right now is because he may resent you for that. The best thing to do would be to take him with you to a school counselor as he may really try to commit suicide. He needs help. If the counselor finds it feasible to get his family involved, they will do so. But please get him help. If he does commit suicide, you don't want to go through a guilt all your life of not being able to do anything. He may not like the idea now but will thank you later.

Answer 3

He might just be the depressive type and unconciously holds on to something that he thinks will cure him (love or soulmate).

He seems to be needing some kind of help in my opinion.  I think it's best if he found a hobby he could be obsessed about, like writing.

Answer 4

I think he is just really disturbed.  I wouldn't call it any disorder.

He could be suicidal, but usually suicidal people hurt themselves a lot and most of the time do not threaten to kill themselves over and over again.

I think he has very low self-esteem, and wants attention so much.  This girl probably made him feel good about himself, and therefore he thought he loved her.  Because of the good feelings he got from her.  Then he loses her and suddenly loses his self-value.  Again, desperate for attention and love.

Usually people with low self-esteem think they are in love with the person who paid romantic attention to them.  It is like a huge boost of self value to them..even if it's not real self-value.

and they usually do become very obsessed with one person.

I think you should lay the line.  Tell him that if he wants to have a conversation with you, you're there for him.  But if all he wants is to give you unproductive ****, then you don't have the time.

It's mean, but he has to get that he can't force people to pay attention to him through his suicidal threats.