Is this child abusive?

Question

me and my mom had a BIG fight and cause she is retarded and was in a bad mode so yeah then she moved this little stool thing super hard and made the thing spill my soda on me and i am like what is wrong with you so she gets in my face and i get in her face and i stood up from the couch so she SHOVES down on the couch it that?

Answer 1

No, that's not child abuse. That's a case of putting a disrespectful daughter in her place.

Answer 2

Are you calling your mom a child?  Or are you asking if you are abused

and accidentally wrote abusive?  I dont think what she did was okay, but I think she just lost her temper.  Mothers do that, ya know, especially when their kids call them retarded children.

Answer 3

if my daughter ever "got in my face" she wouldn't have teeth to talk with, or fingers to type this question with. it is called respect. your mom was mad, she went a little overboard with stool, just like you went overboeard getting in her face. no, it isn't even close to abuse.

abuse would be what i would do to you if you were my daughter.

Answer 4

No that's not child abuse.

Answer 5

what kind of daughter calls her mother retarded?

Sounds like you asked for all you got,and more

Answer 6

First of all I wouldn't call my mother a retarded, no matter what. Your mother is your mother.

Secondly I wouldn't get upset over a spilled drink, making a big fuss and yelling about a spilled drink is worst than a r****d.

Respect begets respect. Anger and yelling won't solve any misunderstanding.

About your question if the child is "abusive", not yet but if the behavior continues, yelling might lead to ADD then to verbal abuse and it might lead to physical abuse.

Additional Details:

Okay, now that you've cleared things up. Now, when she pushed you after you stand up, that's a physical contact. You also said that you have this bruises, if it's because of constant hitting from your mom plus the alcohol in her system and if this kind of things happens a lot, then I'm afraid to tell you that your mom, not only an alcoholic but has an anger/temper issue and behavior problem as well. If your mom hits you and or your dad and screams or yell more than once (once is enough), I'm so sorry to say but your mom has an abusive problem. You and your dad have got to seek help for this.

I'm surprise to hear that you and your dad still stays with her. It only means that you guys still love your mom inspite of her behaviour. I only pray for your safety, I know someone who grew up with a violent parent and she ended up with a broken leg, arm and jaw. It took her to get in this situation before she called for help and say that she had enough of it. I pray that you and your dad would not wait to get in this kind of situation or worst before you realize that you had enough.

Answer 7

Well no.......you were totally in the wrong...I too was a horrible teenager....When I had kids they would have never yelled at me like that or called me names...it just was not allowed....I would have slapped them across the face....for real...so I think you got off easy and you should let this go

Answer 8

No I'm sorry but I really can't say that that is child abuse .

You have to understand that parents have bad days just like any one else .

You also need to understand that this is your mother and you do have to show her some respect and by you getting in her face that was disrespectful of you .

Honestly you should be thankful because there are a lot of parents out there that are abusive , very abusive . Some parents would not have just stopped at shoving you , some take it farther and beat their kids .

That is abuse .

I know that this isn't exactly what you were wanting to hear but I have to be honest .

After things cool down every thing will be back to normal .

The next time that your mom has a bad day or his in a bad mood instead of getting in her face why not try asking her what is wrong and if there is any thing that you can do . If that doesn't work then just go off some where and allow your mom to cool off .

Also you really should be ashamed of yourself for calling your mother retarded . Be thankful that you still have a mother .

There are a lot of us that no longer have our mother .