Is this coincidence or just a stupid question?

Question

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. After hearing nothing from him, i got an e-mail from him a month to the day of our split. Then after that I heard nothing from him until another e-mail which arrived a month to the day and almost the hour after the last one. Is this coincidence or is there some kind of pattern or force influencing his behaviour?

Answer 1

Don't put too much emphasis on time.  It sounds like you are on the back burnner anyway.  Sorry.

Answer 2

Well, most probably he hasn't got another girlfriend yet.

so he is sending you messages to see your response to him.

His human instinct is telling him that he can't or doesn't wants to be alone, so he is contacting the last person he was with which is you. If you want to answer his emails and see what's his response to that, then you will see if he is just playing with you or if he probably still feels something for you and wants to talk to you again and see how do you feel. But if you don't want to even talk to him again just tell him to take a hike.

Answer 3

sounds like he's no's what he's doing...doesnt sound like coincidence to me...just keep an eye on the situation....x

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Answer 4

There's a note on his calendar for this date and time.  It says, "email ex to drive her crazy."

Answer 5

Maybe he knows you'll be thinking about him on those dates.

Answer 6

he's set a reminder on his phone to email you, just incase some other woman doesn't work out with him

Answer 7

Whilst you were with him did you make a big thing out of anniversary's/birthdays important dates etc?

If so he's messing with your head for some reason, if not maybe it's him that puts a great deal of thought onto days and dates.

Doesn't;t necessarily mean he wants to get back with you, but does mean he misses you on some level

Either way he had his chance, move on to someone better!

Good luck Hon!

Answer 8

Most likely the "pattern or force" is actually a conscious decision on his part.

For whatever reason, he has probably decided to send one every month.

This could either reflect an anxious need to be with you (he swore to himself he wouldn't look "desperate" by waiting a month in between) or it could reflect the opposite, him NOT wanting to be with you, but not wanting to look like a jerk either (so forcing himself to remember to send an email once a month).

I cannot think of any unconscious psychological phenomenon that could account for his behavior better than this; such precise timing is generally not handled by the unconscious portions of our brain, normally such precision is conscious.