Is this deceptive?

Question

While on my computer, I try to be open and elaborate about my

feelings and opinions, but in public situations I am somewhat shy and not likely to approach someone or even get involved in a good conversation. It takes me time to put my thoughts into speach and I get frustrated so I tend to keep to myself, thus appearing standoffish.

Is that considered deceptive? Should I try to change this habit? I'd like to seem somewhat intelligent without sending the perception that I'm someone to look for when seeking in depth analysis on any one subject, but also am willing to share what I know when I feel there's something to add.

Is someone like me doomed to having few, if any, close relationships? I can warm up to someone willing to take the time and initiative, but I don't feel I have what it takes to be a teacher or politician. A mentor? maybe, if that person has the right personality.

Answer 1

Usually shy people have the most interesting of minds, are more likely to be intelligent and a pretty good Philosopher.

But the last thing you want to do is make it a "Problem" because problem's need to be erased not fixed. Being shy is just a piece of you like it or not, but what you can do is to change that piece of you into something that you would prefer.

In my opinion.... I don't think the people around me deserve to hear my thoughts and actions. As they could not understand the half of it either way. Be proud of you man...

Good-luck to you

Answer 2

Not at all deceptive. I know what you mean though because I also find it hard to put my thoughts into words. I get frustrated when I end up saying something extremely stupid, and then try to avoid saying anything the next time. Not sure if this is how you feel. But it is not deceptive. It may seem like it to you though. You should only change if you want to change. I do try, but it is difficult at the same time. But no harm in trying.

Check your email.

Answer 3

Always challenge yourself to step out of your comfort  zone.

When you do things will happen for you!

"s***w those people who can't take a joke", and move on ,you will find peoples you click with.

Remember,....Admitting/recognizing  it is the first step.

Your on your way, good luck with that!