Is this discrimination from my childs nursery ? adhd related?

Question

my child is being queried over the illness ADHD, he has not been diagnosed with it but is extrenely difficult at times.

His nursery are planning a trip to legoland in June and i said he could go the teacher told me i must come along otherwise my child cannot go.

I had a diabetic check up that day and have had to cancel it due to the fact that i dont want my child to be upset when everyone else goes to legoland and he is left out

is this discrimination and what can i do about it?

i am deeply upset to say the least

Answer 1

No.  Your child is either pulling more than his share of attention away from others, or is a little tyrant that needs your guidance, so the teachers can do thier thing, and not have to worry about a lawsuit if a kid wanders off or whatever.

Answer 2

No, seeing as this in not public school (I assume from the "nursery" reference) it is not discrimination.  In fact, it's good practice--the teacher is responsible for all the students and if your child is like my neice there is no way I'd try taking your child to Legoland without you.  Impossible to carry a kicking, screaming, child away while watching 6-7 more kids!  Sorry, don't think there's anything you can do about it.  Nursery schools aren't required to provide extra support for your child--it's the responsibility of your "home school" (the public school district in which you live in, and you won't get help until he's classified!

Answer 3

Hi lyndsey, I agree with Rose_320's opinion on this issue. I don't think it is discrimination. Since you mentioned that your child is difficult at times and he has not been diagnosed with ADHD, one thing you can probably try is to make sure he eats a balanced diet and avoid junk food (irrespective of whether he has ADHD or not). Proper nutrients and avoidance of junk has been found in many studies to help improve children's learning, behaviour, etc. A well-balanced diet will also protect him from the many types of illnesses out there. To get more info on these vitamins/diet, you may want to visit this site:

http://www.adhdquestionsandanswers.com/A...

Have a nice day.

Answer 4

Since he has not been doagnosed, no it is not.

Perhaps the teacher wants you there since she has problems with your child, and hopes that you can control him better than she can, and that she does not want to have spend all of her time on the trip correcting YOUR child, and not having a fair amount of time for ALL the kids.

Answer 5

I say that your day care is quite prudent in recognizing that your child requires more supervision than they can offer and that as a Mom you would want to make sure that they were safe - even if that means rearranging your schedule.

If I did not feel my child was 110% able to handle this trip there is NO WAY I'd let them go without me anyway.

Answer 6

Don't be upset and try not to take it personally. In my experience, I have asked parents to come on trips if they child poses a threat to themselves or other children. They are looking out for your child's safety and cutting their liability should something go wrong.

Answer 7

hmmm yes, I would say it's discrimination - if your child needs extra help, the school should be providing it.  That would be for your child's safety but it shouldnt' be up to you to have to take a day off and it's definitely not right to now allow your child to go.  Dont' take offense to extra staff to help with your son, but do insist that he be allowed to go just like all the other children.

Answer 8

I believe it is pretty reasonable. They are truly looking out for your child, the other children, and the nursery in general when they ask you to come along. If they have difficulties with your child in the classroom, who knows what problems may consist in a setting less controlled?

They are only being careful and know you'll be able to see to your child's actions better than they can.

The same would go with another child who they have difficulties with; it's a precaution they are smart to use, and i'm sure they have no knowlege on the date of your checkup & the fieldtrip.

If you suspect something else is going on with this nursery, whether cruel treatment or discrimination, then I suggest you find better suited care providers.

But in this case, however, it does not seem like discrimination. You may have a good time with your child at legoland and could even help look out for the other children, making everyone a little more grateful and happy!

Answer 9

I can see why you would be upset but that truly wasn't what the nursery teacher's plan was.  I wouldn't consider this discrimination.  Both you and the teacher realize he is a challenge and especially if you are leaning toward ADHD...going on a trip to LegoLand will be a challenge for your son...a lot of "new" field trip rules... a larger area to supervise, a lot of action going on. They are just looking out for your son and for themselves.  If you can't go, maybe another in your family would be able to attend in your place?  As for what you can do about...be thankful that you have a teacher/nursery who cares about the safety of all the children.  They want this to be a safe and pleasant experience.  Good for you to reschedule :-) as inconvenient that is for you.  Says a lot about you as a mom.

Answer 10

It is NOT discrimination.  Your child's teacher has an obligation to keep ALL children safe.  Your child's rights do not supercede other children's - nor theirs, his.  If this is not public school (I am assumming you live in the US), they are under zero obligation to provide him with an aide (even if he is diagnosed) and are absolutely within their legal rights to do what they're doing.