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Is this emotional infidelity? how should I feel right now?

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Here's the deal, my girlfriend who I've been living with for 4 years has seemed to find an emotional connection with someone other than me. At this point in my life I am not allowed to meed her, and as far as I know from my girls point of view she has deeper conversations with her than me and she feels as if she really enjoys talking to her.Not only has that left me emotionally staggered, she's having a hard time showing me love because a sista is in a bind right now. I'm about to work two jobs and go to class to make ends meet, and her opinion of me is that I'm irresponsible and weak. I know who the woman my girl is refusing to let me meet. She says their just friends, and I WANT to trust her...but I haven't ever felt like I needed to hide someone I know from her. I love her every-time she gets upset with me now she leave and goes out to talk to her on the phone, apparently on the last few occasions shes scheduled to meet her in private and got stood up twice.

Every time this happened she came home to me upset, and irritated with me for no apparent reason. I guess I'm questioning it because I'd never do something like that to her. If I felt I was crossing the line emotionally with someone I'd make a note to invite my girl out with me to keep establish boundaries. What I don't like is that she does things in private with the girl and then tells me a month or two later. I found out about her after I lost my job two months ago and a strange number appeared in the phone. My girlfriend denied any calls but after feeling suspicious, I checked our phone records and she had called her on several occasions behind my back. Am I being paranoid or should I be worried?

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  1. i don't think you can live like this and i don't blame you

    your gf should be given a shake #

    theres not many guys out there that bother about the emotional side and connection in relationships after a while

    its her loss doll have a chat let her know excatly how your feeling and say if things don't change then you'll have to break away from her

    if she really loves you then she will let you in and change this if not then you no what to do

    find yourself happiness don't settle no matter how much you love someone trust comminication and happiness must come 1st

    gd luck


  2. you should definitely be worried. first off she has lied to you about talking this girl. she will not stop talking to this girl regardless. are you married if not then i will get out this relationship fast and move on.

  3. yes, its emotional

    and you need to decide if you can live this way

    it seems your gf loves her friend more than she loves you

  4. You are being stupid!

    Get a spine and drop this wacko!

    Move on!

  5. I wouldn't have it...she is not treating you right...better move on while you still can....

  6. Yup, emotional connection has been made. She may be attracted to other women, if she is , there`s little you can do. You can`t compete with that, either accept it, or make your choice.

  7. If she has to lie about meeting her or talking to her then there is more than what meets the eye. Be very careful............

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