Is this grounds for PFA/divorce?

Question

I have been fighting depression and my husband says hes tired of lack of s*x, tired of me. I told him to leave then. He said I should just shoot you and put us both out of our misery. He won't leave. Should I get a Protection from abuse order?

Answer 1

You may want to start with marriage counseling it seems that you have poor communication with your spouse.

Answer 2

It depends.  Has he been abusive towards you by beating on you?  If he has not, then you don't need a protection order.  All problems in marriages stem from a lack of communication...you can get help with this through counseling or by trying to open up to him.  You need to explain to him how he feels...if an argument brews up, you need to go to your corner's and try again when you cool off.  Now if he is beating you, that is a different issue...

Answer 3

Ok, Maybe because we aren't hearing the entire story, but this sounds ridiculous.

Do you honestly think he is going to shoot you? If the answer is no, then move on. Tell him that was a messed up thing to say and it hurt your feelings.

If the answer was yes, you are gonna need more than that to get a protective order. But if he's hit you, then go for it.

Btw, He doesn't have to leave his house unless he hits you.  

Answer 4

maybe you are depressed because of this relationship.You should leave before he puts you out of your misery.

Answer 5

Wow, be careful.  That is a scary indirect threat.  You don't need to be married to someone that won't help you work with the tough times of your life.  You need a friend more than anything right now and if your husband can't be that person, then he shouldn't be your husband.  Be smart and careful.  Don't provoke him and try to cheer up!

Answer 6

Well actually in some states husbands not getting s*x from their wives in some cases that can be a divorce able ground for them. I would go ahead and get a separation and that can just be a verbal thing most states you have to be separated for a year before you can get a divorce.  It is very doubtful that you are going to get any protection order from him unless he admits to saying that and says that he may do so.  Unless he has beat you previously then you probably could.   Now just because you are separated though does not mean he will leave but it is the first step to getting him out of your life.  Though chances are he is just as fed up with everything as you are and is just venting his frustrations.  Though not saying that is right or wrong.

Answer 7

Why don't you just leave if you feel your life is in jeopardy???  It sounds like you both are miserable, but yours stem from something deeper that may need medical support AND family support. doesn't sound like he wants to support you so you need to make a decision for your own state of mind. btw, he's being sarcastic and ignorant towards what you're going through, you don't need that right now!!