Is this grounds for divorce or something?

Question

This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

Answer 1

Wrong is wrong, that's the wrong question to ask me. try another thought(smile), before you make someone else sick.

Answer 2

Thoughts LEAD to actions!

This person you described needs therapy NOW!

I would hope the husband WOULD leave, in order to protect the child!

Answer 3

If you are not married and do not have a child - it may be a very good thing since you  "just had a thought".  That is not a healthy thought to have.  Seek help.

Answer 4

Corrina, you really need to seek the assistance of an educated professional.  I have read and answered too many of your questions to know that your thinking is not right.

Please talk to your husband.  Please seek the advice of a trained professional.  These people here, including me, are not equipped to understand much less answer your questions.

Talk to your husband.  Please.  If you don't feel comfortable talking with your husband, please contact the pastor of your church.  If you don't belong to a church, just pick a church and talk to the pastor.  You need assistance, and you will not find it here.

Answer 5

u is a ****** freak 4 thinking like that. only a sick person will think that way. thats all i have 2 say 2 ur sick ***!

Answer 6

please get help....this is an outcry here....just having these thoughts is dangerous.....see someone before you do something awful

Answer 7

It doesn't "pop" into your mind unless you're disgusting, which "this certain person" ABSOLUTELY is.  

Answer 8

I don't know whether or not he would divorce the person or not. That depends on the man. I do think that if the person is "thinking" odd thoughts and not acting on it, it could be a sign of OCD, because with that one can have sexual thoughts that are unwanted....things they "know" they would never do. People on here are reacting in assumption that one would have to be horrible to think like this, when indeed there could be something else wrong. Take a look at this...

Many people experience the type of bad or unwanted thoughts that people with more troubling intrusive thoughts have, but most people are able to dismiss these thoughts.[1] For most people, bad thoughts are a "fleeting annoyance".[3] London psychologist Stanley Rachman presented a questionnaire to healthy college students and found that virtually all said they had bad thoughts from time to time, including thoughts of sexual violence, sexual punishment, "unnatural" s*x acts, painful sexual practices, blasphemous or obscene images, thoughts of harming elderly people or someone close to them, violence against animals or towards children, and impulsive or abusive outbursts or utterances.[4] Such bad thoughts are universal among humans, and have "almost certainly always been a part of the human condition".[5]

When intrusive thoughts co-occur with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), patients are less able to ignore the unpleasant thoughts and may pay undue attention to them, causing the thoughts to become more frequent and distressing.[1] The thoughts may become obsessions which are paralyzing, severe, and constantly present, and can range from thoughts of violence or s*x to blasphemy.[3] Distinguishing them from normal intrusive thoughts experienced by many people, the intrusive thoughts associated with OCD may be anxiety provoking, irrepressible and persistent.[6]

How people react to bad thoughts may determine whether these thoughts will become severe, turn into obsessions, or require treatment. Intrusive thoughts can occur with or without compulsions; carrying out the compulsion reduces the person's anxiety, but makes the urge to perform the compulsion stronger each time it reoccurs, reinforcing the intrusive thoughts.[1] According to Lee Baer (an OCD specialist at the Massachusetts General Hospital's OCD clinic), suppressing the thoughts only makes them stronger, and recognizing that bad thoughts don't signify that one is truly evil is one of the steps to overcoming them.[7] There is evidence of the benefit of acceptance as an alternative to suppression of intrusive thoughts. A study showed that those instructed to suppress intrusive thoughts experienced more distress after suppression, while patients instructed to accept the bad thoughts experienced decreased discomfort.[8] These results may be related to underlying cognitive processes involved in OCD.[9] But, accepting the thoughts can be more difficult for persons with OCD. In the 19th century, OCD was known as "the doubting sickness";[10] the "pathological doubt" that accompanies OCD can make it harder for a person with OCD to distinguish "normal" intrusive thoughts as experienced by most people, causing them to "suffer in silence, feeling too embarrassed or worried that they will be thought crazy".[11]

The possibility that most patients suffering from intrusive thoughts will ever act on those thoughts is low; patients who are experiencing intense guilt, anxiety, shame, and upset over bad thoughts are different from those who actually act on bad thoughts. The history of violent crime is dominated by those who feel no guilt or remorse; the very fact that someone is tormented by intrusive thoughts, and has never acted on them before, is an excellent predictor that they won't act upon the thoughts. Patients who aren't troubled or shamed by their thoughts, don't find them distasteful, or who have actually taken action, might need to have more serious conditions, psychosis or potentially criminal behaviors ruled out.[12] According to Baer, a patient should be concerned that intrusive thoughts are dangerous if the person doesn't feel upset by the thoughts, rather finds them pleasurable; has ever acted on violent or sexual thoughts or urges; hears voices or sees things that others don't see; or feels uncontrollable irresistible anger.[13]

[edit] Inappropriate aggressive thoughts

Intrusive thoughts may involve violent obsessions about hurting others or one's self.[14] They can include such bad thoughts as harming an innocent child, jumping from a bridge, mountain or the top of a tall building, urges to jump in front of a train or automobile, and urges to push another in front of a train or automobile.[2] A survey of healthy college students found that virtually all of them had intrusive thoughts from time to time, including:[4]

Causing harm to elderly people

Imagining or wishing harm upon someone close to one's self

Impulses to violently attack, hit, harm or kill a person, smsmall child, or animal

Impulses to shout at or abuse someone, or attack and violently punish someone, or say something rude, inappropriate, nasty or violent to someone.

These thoughts are part of being human, and need not ruin the quality of one's life;[15] treatment is available when the thoughts are associated with OCD and become persistent, severe, or distressing.

[edit] Inappropriate sexual thoughts

Sexual obsessions involve intrusive thoughts or images of "kissing, touching, fondling, oral s*x, anal s*x, intercourse, and rape" with "strangers, acquaintances, parents, children, family members, friends, coworkers, animals and religious figures", involving "heterosexual or homosexual content" with persons of any age.[16]

Like other intrusive, bad thoughts or images, everyone has some inappropriate sexual thoughts at times, but people with OCD may attach significance to the unwanted sexual thoughts, generating anxiety and distress. The doubt that accompanies OCD leads to uncertainty regarding whether one might act on the bad thoughts, resulting in self-criticism or loathing.[16]

One of the more common sexual intrusive thoughts occurs when an obsessive person doubts his or her sexual identity. As in the case of most sexual obsessions, sufferers may feel shame and live in isolation, finding it hard to discuss their fears, doubts, and concerns about their sexual identity.[10]

A person experiencing sexual intrusive thoughts may feel shame, "embarrassment, guilt, distress, torment, fear that you may act on the thought or perceived impulse and, doubt about whether you have already acted in such a way." Depression may be a result of the self-loathing that can occur, depending on how much the OCD interferes with daily functioning or causes distress.[16] Their concern over these bad thoughts may cause them to scrutinize their bodies to determine if the thoughts result in feelings of arousal. But, focusing attention of any part of the body can result in feelings in that part of the body, hence doing so may decrease confidence and increase fear about acting on the urges. Part of treatment of sexual intrusive thoughts involves therapy to help sufferers accept intrusive thoughts and stop trying to reassure themselves by checking their bodies.[17]

Hope this helps. This comes from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_t... There are a lot more websites on this as well.

Answer 9

I have serious doubts this is a real question.  You sound like you're looking for an answer or some confirmation about your thoughts and actions.

Only a whackadoo sick ____  would think this.  Seek help...  your disorder will manifest itself into an escalation of criminal levels.

Answer 10

Anyone who has these thoughts should distance themselves from all children...and their spouses should divorce them. Who wants to be married to a latent pedofile?

Answer 11

there is something wrong with the perons for thinking this