Is this guy really all that bad?

Question

I've asked about him before but I think I might have been a bit biased in my description - so I'll try to be more objective:

He was 27 with a long term gf and they had a child together already. He was a little bored and wanted some more s*x (nothing else), so he goes to a club and hits on this girl and she offers him a lift home. He pushes and pushes until he gets s*x out of her. He thinks it is a one nighter but she gives him her ph and he calls her twice more (probably intriguied as he realised through physical evidence that she was a virgin- yeah silly girl). The affair ended when she found out about the gf. He married the gf a few yrs later - not sure if he still cheats but they are still married and live in a small town close to family/friends. He was basically your average tradesman type guy - just a guy who smoked and worked at a mine - just he had a lot of sense with money and invested wisely and has millions now. He was cheating in a bigger town on his days off work.

In his defense, he didn't intend at the start to see the other girl again - just a one off thing but she gave out the ph no and his buddies encouraged him to call after he told them about her being a virgin. Also he married the gf - so he must love her and he must have a little decency. He was close to his family (and is probably). He felt guilt about it at the time. He never tried to contact the other girl again after she ended it. He had just been with the gf so long and wanted to feel......I don't know....kind of free again I guess.

We don't know if he still cheats - but being married now and close to friends/family probably not?

So what kind of husband do you reckon he could be? I don't buy that once a cheater, always a cheater thing - ppl can change! I wonder if the guilt would ever come back or if he feels bad about NOT being able to cheat now? Or if the cheating made him realise how much his gf meant to him.

Answer 1

So, you want to break up his marriage and take a chance that he will marry you and not cheat on you? And you think that his proximity to his family insures that he is faithful.

Honey, I have news for you: You are still a virgin.

Reality denial is a very powerful drug, but I have my own supply, so I don't need any of yours, thank you.

If you "don't buy that once a cheater, always a cheater thing - ppl can change! " you go right ahead. But start saving up now for a divorce lawyer, just in case.

Answer 2

weather you believe it or not this is the WAY IT IS!! once a cheater always a cheater thats how men and women both are once they get the taste of the attention from the opposite s*x its all out thew window from there  

Answer 3

Yes,  You hope he will and he won't. You got played, and now you are playing yourself.  hoping he will and he won't.  Take your meds. like a good  girl and move on and up.  

Answer 4

U formulated the story a bit confusing: are you the one he is married to now?  

Answer 5

If he's married now and hasn't cheated, then i guess he's a faithful husband.

Seems to me this is his and his wife's lives, not yours.

I don't understand what you are getting at, unless you want to know if we think he will cheat again?  There is a 50% chance.  ??