Is this guy sexist?

Question

i have a guy friend at school and i told him that i was going to take a AP class next year

he said I would never survive it

he also said that when i said i signed up for JROTC for my elective alternative and when I signed up to take karate with my mom

do you think this guy is sexist

Answer 1

I agree with what some other answerers have said.  Is he saying these things to you because you are female, or just based on your own abilities/character/personality as an individual, and not because you are female?  

If he is saying these things because you are female, then he is absolutely sexist.  

Even if he isn't...frankly, he's still, as others have mentioned, not a very supportive friend.  

Either way, he's not the kind of person I'd want to have around.

Answer 2

Yeah.

And AP classes aren't that hard...maybe they were really hard for HIM, and that's why he thinks a "girl" couldn't do better.

I can't wait for to make straight A's and show him your report card.

Answer 3

He's insecure and ego fragile and neurotically conspires to reduce you in self-confidence in order to afford him a false and pathetic sense of superiority over you.  He may be your friend, but he means you harm in his madness.

Answer 4

He doesn't even mention or say anything about your gender, so nope.

Answer 5

Did he say that because you were a girl, or because he's been there and knows how tough it is? If it's the former, yes, he's sexist. If not, don't worry about it too much.

By the way, what's JROTC?

Answer 6

YES! Prove him wrong and work hard and do amazing in your class!

He is definately sexist.

Answer 7

It could be that he's just cynical.  Some people are negative and like to tear others down.

I find it amusing that he thinks AP classes are hard.  I was in a special program for gifted students, and our classes were above the Honors and AP classes.  By the time I graduated there were only 3 or 4 guys in the program (two of them g*y) and 20+ girls.  We outperformed them in all subjects, including math.

Answer 8

Yeah, and I don't blame him one bit.

Answer 9

Not necessarily. He's rude, but he might be saying those things for other reasons (not just gender).

Answer 10

That depends, he could be saying that based on his perspective of your intelligence level.

Having taken AP classes, they aren't that hard anyways.

If he thinks you wouldn't survive it simply because your a woman and he thinks women are less intelligent, then yea.

Answer 11

DEFINATLY! girl keep doin wat u are doin.its great

Answer 12

Assuming he made no reference to your gender, I would definitely say no.  It is not sexist to tell a girl that she cannot do something if the reason is not gender related.  

The reference about not surviving the course could be made about any number of boys too.

Also, he could be wrong, and most likely is.  

Don't always assume that when someone says that you can't do something that the reason is always sexist: if you do that then you will walk through life always being offended.

Answer 13

It depends on his reason. If his reason for saying this is 'girls cannot do his course', then he is sexist.

If his reason is that he thinks you personally are unsuitable he may not be sexist, but he's also not very supportive as a friend.

Either way, he doesn't sound like someone who would be very useful to have on your team!

I'm sure you can find better, more supportive, friends.

Cheers :-)

Answer 14

He's a jerk, but unless he said something specifically about you being a girl you're not listing here there's not enough to call him a sexist.

Answer 15

not to be an evil beezy, but maybe he just thinks YOU might not be able to survive it. Not all girls, just you? idk.