Is this harmless coming from a married man??

Question

A married man and woman who work together spend months flirting a lot – there’s a lot of staring (even in front of both spouses), smiling, getting embarrassed in front of each other, comments, touching,etc. The woman gets pregnant, and so does the guy’s wife. The flirting has not stopped with either pregnancy.

He occasionally stops her to ask how she’s doing with the pregnancy, share his experiences (he already has another child), etc. One day, she’s walking by his office and he stops her again – then he asks if she’s been “getting emotional” and starts to complain about his wife; how he gets yelled at for giving suggestions and trying to help, then again when he’s silent, so he can’t win… He then says “You’re always so together; I’ve never seen you lose your temper, are you like that at home too?” and she tells him that she’s just been crying a lot, but she doesn’t get like that… He then says “I’ve told her (wife), “Woman’s name” isn’t like this at all!”, to which his wife replied “I’ll bet she yells at her husband too…”. The man again stresses how “even-keeled” and calm and collected the woman is, and praises her for it.

The woman asks how he feels about getting yelled at – does he handle it or get upset?? He says he does both, but sometimes he does get upset… She shares that her husband does the same too, even when she’s just crying…

What is the man trying to do?

Answer 1

You've asked this question several times - not happy with the answers you've been given?

OK - he's having an affair - the woman's baby is really his, not her husband's, & he plans to leave his wife for her as soon as both babies are born.

Is that what you're waiting for???

Answer 2

he might be hitting on her, or he might just enjoy complaining about his wife because he is stressed out. in any case if you are not one of the people in question it is none of your business. don't play office police it is very petty. don't you have something better to do with your time? If you are the woman in question and don't want to send the wrong message to him then stop flirting with him and tell him you feel uncomfortable when he talks about his wife like this.

Answer 3

sounds like the man just needs someone to talk to, since his wife is so moody...he wants to see if this is normal or typical behavior...and he is saying things to you that he would say to her if he could without repercussion.

becaus he told his wife...this girl is pregnant and she dosen't act like that...shows it's not inappropriate intrest, but a innocent admiration.

consider it a compliment and don't read any more into it.

Answer 4

He's doing something that's real common, mistaking business behavior with non-business behavior. He wishes his wife would sail through the pregnancy like she was at work and in business mode. And, of course, he's not hearing when the coworker says she has problems, too. And he's fantasizing like mad. Immature to the point of being a jerk. And obviously not harmless. Showing yourself to be a jerk to you spouse isn't harmless.  

Answer 5

sounds like hes on the edge of going over the line, hes thinking things might be greener on the other side, the flirting has taken his thoughts a step further. all pregnant women get emotional, the hormones are going crazy and with major swings in both directions and its very difficult to handle, understand and you cant control them. he needs to be more understanding of his wife and what she is going through to bring their child into the world. hes flirting with more than just danger here...  

Answer 6

The signs are clear that this man is looking for sympathy and companionship outside of his marriage.  There is nothing wrong with wanting that, it is why married people have friends.  However, most people can seek such support without touching, flirting, and putting down their spouse.  That is teetering on nonplatonic support, which is an affair.  If this marriage is to be spared that heartache, he needs to confront his reasons for behaving this way, now.  All of this goes for the other woman, too, but your question was about the man.  He seems to think that the grass is greener on her side.  s******g up his marriage and not being an everyday part of his child's life would be a very hard way to learn that lesson.

Answer 7

It is only what the people want to do. In many cases, it is just idle and harmless talk. Unless the situation hurt productivity, one should understand that levity on a job is harmless. It becomes a problem if one of the other think that it is becoming sexual in nature. People will test the waters and see how far they can go in a situation. The vibes that are giving off will set the parameters about how far the people should go in a relationship. There is also a safety net. Both are married and wives are carrying a child. The key issue is that the man always make reference to how the husband act in a certain situation. This means to me , he is comparing notes. Harmless at this point.

Answer 8

What are you trying to do?

Answer 9

trying to confuse everyone on Yahoo Answers......

Answer 10

It sounds as if both of them are being incredibly unprofessional.  It really doesn't matter what their motivations are.  It could be harmless flirting or one of them might want more... doesn't matter.  They're both married and need to cut it out.  If the fact that they're married isn't enough to matter to them, remaining professional in the workplace should.

Answer 11

There just talking and if its anything else, well respectfully : its nothing to do with you. Keep your oar out :) If your bored go watch youtube or something - RES{ECFULLY ;)

Answer 12

theres an affair somewhere in all this......