Is this illegal now? can i report my mum for this?

Question

I've asked about this before but didnt really get many answers, and its happened more often recently.

okay so heres the story....

last night about 10 or 10.30 pm? i was lieing on the sofa watching tv (mum and dad wont let me have one in my room) and my mum came in and told me to go to bed cos her and my dad were going to bed and i asked her if i could stay up longer cos the program i was watching finished at 11 but she said no and told me to get to bed now otherwise i would be grounded so i just ignored her and carried on watching tv and she pulled me off the sofa and yanked down my pajama bottoms gave me a REALLY hard slap! i thought smacking was illegal now? could someone please tell me!!

Answer 1

It would help you to get more specific answers if you mentioned what state you were living in.  State laws vary considerably.  In many states, a parent may strike a child as a punishment so long as it leaves no permanent marks and the parent uses no weapons (such as belts, hair brushes, etc).  In my own state, of Washington, the law actually states that a parent my use corporal punishment on their child (including belts, etc) as long as it leaves no permanent marks.  

Frankly, I applaud your mother.  In your parents' house, when you're told to do something, you'd best get hoppin.  You had no excuse whatsoever to be insolent, and were you my child, you'd have had your butt spanked and lost TV, phone and outside priviledges for at least a week.

Answer 2

In the United States its not....

in the UK i think its illegal i'm not sure.

Answer 3

Yes, smacking is illegal now. You can report your mum.

Answer 4

shes your mom and you were being stupid.

i dont blame her.

but how old are you?

anyways if you did report her, think about all the drama that would be caused. police report file, an investigation, and then court.....do you really want to do that to yourself, AND to her?

Answer 5

if you did something really bad like one time there was this boy who went out side naked and got spanked several times someone called the police and the judge decided that this boy needed disapline and that is that if it is for no reason then it is abuse! hope i helped!

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Answer 6

Its illegal now!

Answer 7

your 15 ... go to bed whe you are told

I dot agree with smaking but my childre do not igore me whe told to do something

your a child act like one , you were naughty so you got smaked

maybe if you start actig more resposible your parets wot need to smack you  

Answer 8

i don't care what the law is.... and i don't think u would either if you had a child who was being disrespectful and didnt listen to you.

Spanking is not wrong... abusing is.

She didnt abuse you. So next time do what she tells you.

Answer 9

It's one thing if your parent beats you to a bloody pulp, but an occasional spanking for disobedience isn't illegal.  Grow up and do what your parents ask.  They just want what's best for you.

Answer 10

iwas in foster care my whole life trust me what they do to you in there is nothing to what your mom did to you i had to share a room with ten other people so stop wining i would of took off my belt and you would be grounded stop being spolied you dont always get what you want in life start listening and maybe you will get your own room kiss *** show her you deserver your own room and no its not illigal but yes you can call the cops and they will take you away but your life will suck from there on out

Answer 11

Hi there

Your obviousy very angry about this and justifiably.

There a ways to dicipline adolesence I have to honest with you on a couple of different levels (a) at fifteen i personally don't beleive you should be hit or smacked. But the thing that concerns me the most is her pulling down you pants ! you are a young adult now and this type of act is discusting and a violation of your privacy. It is not a normal diciplinary act, My advice to you is to see a councilor at school and discuss this problem with them. You don't have to put up with this. So sorry this happened to you. Please don't feel embarassed about seeing a school councilor. They are there to help. Good luck sweetie.

Natalie

Answer 12

legal of course as I did that to my grandson two weeks ago

when a child refuse to do as told a good swat on the butt is quite effective

Answer 13

I don't think she should have smacked you for disobeying her (abuse of any form is illegal), but I do think you should have listened to her instead of continuing to watch television.

Answer 14

Is it that you didn't get many answers or is it you didn't get many answers you liked ?

A slap on the bum should not be illegal, although, I am no lawyer.  Beating a child is illegal, abusing and torturing a child is illegal, but this does not seem to be the case.

Ignoring, in effect, disrespecting your mother when she tells you to do something should be illegal though.

Answer 15

HOW OLD ARE YOU?  You are asking if it's illegal.  I think you SHOULD call child protective.  Your parents need help on discipline or they are going to have a terrible time with you in the future.  You have no respect for what your parent say. You said you ignored her and carried on watching tv.. Why would you do that?  You don't deserve a tv in your room and I think I would have cut off the power to the tv or taken it in my room and not let you see it until you showed me some respect. Parents have rights also. They should call the police and have you picked up for being incorrigible and have you sent to foster care where they are very harsh. Grow up. You are living in someone else's house   Why would you think you don't have to follow their rules? That's how it is in real life.  Out of curiosity. What do you think should have been done?  What would you do it this was your child? I doubt if you are mature enough to think as an adult. Sorry if this isn't the support your are looking for.  

Answer 16

haha so, spanking is nothing..suck it up..parents will be parents..how old are you?

Answer 17

Okay. You live with your mom and she takes care of you. How do you think it is justified to do what you want when she says no. To me you sound like a young child that is mad because you didn't get your way. You need to re-evaluate. Who is the child and who is the parent?

Answer 18

i think you should report her!! But then again who will cook, do your washing, buy groceries, give you money etc etc.... I'm sure your mum will be happy to have a break from such an ungrateful child she has taken care of for 15 years.  I suggest you start respecting your mom rather then asking if you can report her.  

Answer 19

I think smacking is illegal now [or hugely frowned apon] but honestly do you want to charge your mum for something so petty...it could ruin your relationship for life.

I think you should try and compromise with her..say something like can I watch the rest of this and i'll clean the bathroom tomorrow...something that makes her feel like she's benefitting out of it.

[Btw my gran has broken wooden spoons on me before! I never took her to court or anything in fear that it might destroy the family..which it would have! But if your family does often resort to violence on you then I think you should confide within another family member and see what they think you should do]

Answer 20

Um yeah i wouldn't put up with that. uuum i dunno where you live but he's a site about some laws on spanking.

Answer 21

Sounds like you have a good mom.  She monitors you tv viewing, makes sure you have enough sleep, and teaches you what you need to know to get along in the world.

Why would you want to hurt her by reporting something that like that?

How ungrateful can a kid be? geez

Answer 22

hahahah honestly i understand. it's not like she punched you in the face or anything. its a smack suck it up and do what youre told next time. and yeah i agree do you really wanna put your family through all that?

honestly your parents raised you and paid for almost everything you own and you really wanna send them to jail??

thats weak

Answer 23

why would you report your mama?

Mine always smacks me if I dont listen to her, but she is like my bestie and that is why I dont even think about that.

Parents have to do that,or else we would like get in their face all the fricking time

Answer 24

Your lucky thats all she did to you, i would smacked your *** with a belt like my mom used to do to me. But why would you report your mom for smacking you? You were being stupid and didnt listen to her. Obviously your mom and dad were trying to get jiggy and didnt want you to hear them lol. Youll get over this in a few days...

Answer 25

Think it out, and grow up.

If she did something that is reportable, and you reported it, and they took action, the first step is removing YOU from the home. You will be placed in a temporary shelter, pending a foster care placement.

Maybe try listening to your parents.

Answer 26

Wow yeah report your mom and end up in the legall system with a foster parent who may do worse to you, get your mom put in jail for being a REAL parent, why don't you just listen and do what your told until you 18 then do what you want, I got my butt spanked when I was a minor and you know what, I said something about it because I was a nasty little twit and people came to my house and my mom cried more than I have ever seen a person cry before and if you have siblings they ask them all kinds of personal questions, they put your parents through h**l. Its not illegal to spank your children though its illegal to beat them. Be happy your not one of those kids that ends up in the hospital for chewing to loud or looking at their parent wrong.. I mean seriously whats wrong with you.

If you have a problem with it SAY SOMETHING to your mother, tell her you really don't like spanking and ask her if she can find another source of punishment for you because you feel its wrong, see what she says.. and listen do what your told 11 is a late bed time anyways.

Or go ahead an report her for spanking you and see what happens to you in the system see what happens to your parents who love you, a spank is nothing, hitting you full fist in the face is something throwing you against the wall is something. Do some research online about abused children or something.

This is child abuse!

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Answer 27

Hi Katiii

            phisical abuse is unlawful but smacking to chastise a naughty child within reason is not your parents are within their rights as you are dis-respecting them in their home. Rules are not their to be broken but to help you through ths jungle called life. Your mother loves you very much as she has spent the time to correct your behaviour,  i have 4 children 2 girls and 2 boys their ages range from 14 to 27. One thing you must remember you live under your parents roof, with THEIR rules and as such they are responsible for you till you reach such an age as the law recognises that you are an adult and even then their are more rules and things you wont like or want to do so when your boss tells you to do something are you going to ignore them too?? That behaviour will not get you very far so think on before you decide to call the police as it will be you who suffers the most. It would be far easier to comply with your parents rules, i hope i haven't been too hard on you i just want to let yu see what you are heading for i hope you can sort it out with your parents as you will need them for a long time to come all the best DAD of 4...    

Answer 28

when i was 15, no one could tell me to do Sh*t. I think your mother is pretty controlling to make you want to go to bed just because she and your father were...

although, i dont think you should be watching tv so late during a weeknight because you have other commitments like school the next day.

I would pull my pants up and slap her really hard in the face. She had no right to hit you - or especially, to bare any part of your naked body like that. It is the ultimate humiliation.. im shuddering.

(on second thought, if my mother ever did that to me, i would - and i say this literally - get the wooden spoon or steel spatula from the kitchen and beat her with it) (yes, she and i have a very bad relationship) haha

If your mother keeps on hitting you when you turn 16 and 17 and so on... then i think it is time to dob her into the police, just to scare her a bit. Its unacceptable.