Is this illegeal??

Question

my sister told me that in virginia, social services will come and take your children away if a boy and a girl have to share a room...that you have to put one of them in their own bed in the room with you. that is uderly ridiculouse to me!!! i have a four bedroom home, two rooms up stairs and two down stairs. both the rooms upstairs are painted light pink and white, for our girls..avery 6 and katelyn is 1. we also have Ben, who is 2 and his room is down stairs. i feel that katelyn is too young to be up stairs all by herself, so i put her crib in the room with ben because it's right next to us. now, my sister says that i can't do that and that i HAVE to put her up there or i am breaking a virginia state law. is she full of c**p or is she right? i just don't get it cause what do ppl do that really can't afford to have a bedroom for every child? it can't be right...

Answer 1

its not true at all your sisters a moron

Answer 2

your children are too young for it to be considered inappropiate if your son was 13 and your daughter was 5 then yeah it would be a problem but right now it's fine. tell your sister to relax and how the heck would social services even know

Answer 3

I would imagine that if there's any sort of rule about this that there's also an age attached to it.  But, how would social services even know?  Arew they going door to door and night to see where your kids are sleeping?  You're fine, relax.

Answer 4

thats not illegal

Answer 5

it might be more of a fire hazard law.  no more than so many people can live in a house that only has 'x' amount of square footage.

Answer 6

its not a law where i live inless they are over 5 and then as long as you have there beds in seprate rooms they cant say anything but at night put them in the same room

Answer 7

It is illegal in Georgia, but the ages are what makes it illegal. In Georgia, the older sibling cannot be over the age of 8. Because your son is 2 and your youngest daughter is 1, you are not breaking the law. This law is stupid, but it is in effect because there are just too many cases of incest being found.

Your fine. By the time this law goes into effect for you, your two girls will be old enough to share their room and it wont be an issue.

Answer 8

It could be true if other issues were going on as well.  I knew a woman who had her two kids taken away and she couldn't get them back until she had a three bedroom.  Most will say it's ok for a girl and boy to share a room until one of them reaches the age of five.

Answer 9

It's right in a way. It is illegal to put children of different sexes in the same room if they are over a certain age. If they are both over the age of 5, it is illegal to have them in the same room, otherwise it is okay to do.

Once they are both 5 or older, then your daughter has to either have her own room or share with her sisters.

Answer 10

Yes and no. In Va, children can co-hab with a sibling of the opposite gender in one room with some rules. If you get Housing Choice Vouchers (what was called Sec 8) or are in public  housing, then they can not allow you to take a unit that will place children in that situation (ie if you have a 3 yr old boy and 5 yr old girl, you can't qualify to get a 2 bedroom apt, however if you have a 3 yr old and then get a 2 bedroom place and have another child of the opposite gender they won't come in and make you move right away or take your kids). Rule of thumb here is that as long as the kids are very young, it is overlooked for the reason you give-we can't move everyone with each new child. BUT, once the kids are old enough to notice some differences then you can not allow them to share a space. A typical rule of thumb used by most agencies in the state 3 years ago was as long as they are within 2 years age difference and both under 8 yrs old you just overlook it. But yes at some point you will need to move them to more appropriate sleeping areas. And no-they don't advocate sharing a room with mom and dad either! Actually if a single woman is preg when she applies for housing aide, she qualifies for a 2 bedroom unit since we can not expect her to keep the child in her room when it is 3 or 4 and we can not say what apts and spaces will be open that far down the road.

As one other person says-local fire codes and housing codes can come into play and regulate the number of indivduals per bedroom. In our community our zoning is only one person per bedroom is allowed unless they are related(mostly college age renters, this prevents room sharing among that group where you might have 3 people share one room).

Answer 11

i dont know about ur state and i dont know for sure if they can take the children. but i know if u apply for housing and u have a boy and a girl that they HAVE to make sure the home that they provide u with has separate bedrooms for the children. and unless someone reports it to someone how will any body know? they dont do randum checks

Answer 12

While most states have laws regarding the number of bedrooms necessary for public housing, military housing, foster children, etc.  -- there are no laws that tell individual families how many bedrooms they have to have, or what children can be in what room.

Answer 13

i hope not. the only possible way this would be true is it would have to have something to do with adoption or fostering. California has some very strict regulations in regards to adoption and fostering that don't apply to your birth children. so maybe there is some truth to this but its being interpreted incorrectly. Sorry my two daughters are 2 years apart and they will be sharing a room for as long as possible. I think its actually better for them teaches them to share

Answer 14

She's full of c**p.

You can use this law reference for the state of Virginia http://www.courts.state.va.us/library/li... like I did to find this answer. I searched under "siblings sharing bedroom" and "opposite s*x siblings sharing bedroom" and NO RESULTS were found in the entire state law library on any such topic.

I wouldn't worry about it for now, but you could also put a smal crib/bassinet in your room for now until she is at an age you feel better about having her upstairs.  The other option is to put your son upstairs in the other bedroom and put your little one in his room thus doing a room swap if you are worried about it.   I don't think it's a problem until they reach the age they start noticing differences in anatomy (around 3 or 4). I'd probaby opt to put the baby in my room in a smaller crib or bassinet for a few months until they are crawling at least.

Answer 15

Each state has different laws. You shouldn't worry now, I think the average age of room seperation is 5 yrs old.

Answer 16

Social services have stupid little catch alls. Just like a cop can pull you over for having dice hanging from your rear view window. It's not a problem unless they suspect something else. Also, who is going to call on you, her? I live in Va now, but I am from NY. When I lived in NY my ex husband called social services on me (lies of course) and they'd come by to check the house and I had my sona nd daughter sharing a small beroom, but it was clean and neat, so it wasn't a problem. I had 2 livingrooms though so I ended up putting my daughter in one of them when my other son needed to get out of my room to make room for the new baby. I had 4 kids in a 2 bdrm apartment. Now we're in a 4bdrm house but we only use 3 of the rooms. We'll be moving to a 3 bdrm house in 2 months.

But my point is, unless you are abusing the kids or the house is a mess, they won't care.

Answer 17

Most states have their own statute on separation, however, how is the S.S. going to know? I had to share a bedroom until I left the house. Ask your sis to prove her statement.

Answer 18

Governments do not always put the people in their best interest. In the UK, new policies set to be introduced state that you cannot kiss your kids in public now, without permission from the government. http://www.infowars.com/?p=2870&cp=11 Hard to believe? Trust me, I know. People don't WANT their government to be bad, they WANT good things, so that is all they see. You have to look deeper. Things will only get worse until people stop worrying about britney spears and eminem and start worrying about criminal elements in government, you think that if you just trust them they will do good things? No, it is even in the Bible, humans are selfish, power and money hungry.

Answer 19

your sister is right

put the crib in your room or put her in her own room better yet and get a monitor

my son slept in his own room from 7 weeks on

that law is mainly enforced with kids over age 10

Answer 20

I think she's fooling with you or else for some reason she doesn't approve of you doing this.  Ask her to show you proof of this so called state law.  That will shut her trap.

Answer 21

That is ridiculous. Your sister is either pulling your leg or she really wants you to seperate the kids because she has a problem with it lol. I wouldnt worry...social services wouldnt know unless the kids went and complained and even then if this was a law..they would probably give you a warning....BUT I AM CERTAIN IT IS NOT A LAW. Thats insane. You keep the arrangement you already have :)