Is this inappropriate for a 16 year old girl?

Question

I have known this teacher for 3 yrs. and he was my coach and teacher at the Jr. High. at one time. hes very honest, outgoing.

Know im in Highschool.

Anyways i was around alot people when this happend, he approached me from behind a grabbed my shoulders hard, squeezed them alot of times ....

I just smiled and talked and sat down.

(Is this just nice or is he just being freindly?)

Answer 1

I think that it was fine If he meant it any differently than he would not of done in when you were around alot of people.

Answer 2

Well, i think its normal.. i mean, my dad squeezes my shoulders.. i think thats what adults usually do... i mean if u r thinking of like *seduction* then.. i dont think so..

Answer 3

Isn't nice and friendly the same thing? How in the world could you read anything inappropriate into that gesture?

Answer 4

its no big deal unless hes prevert I mean I have a teacher that does it all the time I don't care cause hes just being friendly........ I'm sixteen too sweet coockies

Answer 5

It's not appropriate for a teacher to be doing this.. STOP this now before it escalates into something you don't want to happen.. Say he does this again but, he gets a little to friendly will your friends back you up if you complain to the principle?

Stay away from this teacher at all costs..

Answer 6

its not abuse but it is strange advise try to avoid him

Answer 7

teachers aren't allowed to do that. all i can say

Answer 8

nice or friendly kinda mean the same thing.... but to me, it's creepy as h**l lol

Answer 9

this is very inappropriate. i am also 16 and was molested by my uncle last summer...no I was not rapped...but he touched me very inappropriately. you need to tell your parents now is best, but especially if anything worse happens. avoid being alone with him.

don't think b/c you are a "normal" teenage girl that this can not happen to you. I am a good student, come from a middle class family, pretty normal parents, and my uncle...who no one expected...did this to me.

its not your fault...remember that! men are crazy! but please talk to someone.

Answer 10

a lot of friend's do that.but......watchout!

Answer 11

next time it happens, use your voice and say "Please don't do that."

Answer 12

i would say its normal. my dad and teachers do that. isnt nice and friendly the same thing? well i think he was just being nice. if you mean like sexual then no i wouldnt think of it that way.

Answer 13

Depends on what he says. I had a teacher that did this. Hes jsut being friendly at least mine was. If you dont like him doing that ask him to stop if he doesnt then you know hes being more then nice, or funny hes being *friendly then you need to tell an adult about it

good luck

Answer 14

I think that the real question is how did it make YOU feel???

Answer 15

If it felt "icky" then it was inappropriate. In a friendly manner let him know you don't like it. Or you can just be rude. It's your body, just do what feels best for you. Who knows if it was "innocent?" The fact that you didn't like it, tells me it wasn't. You don't have to be nice when someone touches you inappropriately. Tell your parents if you don't want to confront him.

Answer 16

He's probably just being nice, but if it bothers you it's a problem. If it makes you uncomfortable, you should say something. I'd say that in itself, it shouldn't be taken the wrong way.

Answer 17

that is not appropriate. while it may have just been a friendly gesture he still shouldn't have done that. i would say right now u shouldn't worry too much about it, but be careful and keep an eye out. if something like this that is even remotely suspicious happens again u should definitely speak to a parent or another teacher at ur school.

Answer 18

he is invading your personal space...yes its innappropriate for a teacher to touch a student..at all

Answer 19

If he is outgoing, it sounds like he just feels comfortable being himself and doing this type of thing.  Please don't read too much into it and get him in trouble for something that is probably an innocent act of kindness.  If he does something that isn't in front of a bunch of other kids, or if he tries to hide something, then I would be more concerned.  Honestly he just sounds like a nice man that feels comfortable being around his students.

Answer 20

Sounds like he is just being friendly.  If it goes further than that, then report it.  I'd make sure you told your parents or documented it just to be on the safe side.

It is not uncommon for teachers who really care about their students to be very caring and develop some sort of bond with the kids.  

You know the difference between right and wrong.  Use your judgement.

Answer 21

I cannot believe that our society has gone into making everything sexual.  If it isnt sexual harassment, then it is inappropriate behavior.  If it didnt make you uncomfortable then forget it.  If it did, then remove yourself from the situation and leave it alone.  I had a grade school principle that would do that all the time.  I am 30 years old and when i see him, he still does it.  It is who he is and what he does.  Doesnt freak me out, anymore i know it is coming.  get over it and be happy that this is the worst thing you have to worry about.

Answer 22

It depends. Were you uncomfortable? I would feel uncomfortable, especialy if he was a male. To tell you the truth, the first person I would tell is my older sister and/or my Bff Angela. I think it is inappropriate for him to do that. How old is he anyway. He squeezed your shoulders a few times...... ya.....tell someone. Like ur bff, adn few other friends, they'll be aware.  Did you like it when he did it? Maybe he is some child melester who happened to get interest into you. Tell someone. I dont know, he could be friendly, or a melester. Be aware.

Answer 23

Don't jump the gun just yet.  If anything else inappropriate arises, tell on him IMMEDIATELY!  He may have just been friendly.  Many people are touchy-feely in a non perverted way.