Is this jealousy? What do I do?

Question

Ok there's this single friend of mine who I am in love with. we almost kissed two years ago and we're both Christians and virgins. He's 28 and not looking for a relationship. Anyway he travels alot because of learning new things or missions(if longer than a few months).

Anyway he's posted pictures of his adventures in Hawaii and on his team there's two guys including him and two gorgeous women who don't dress modestly like I do. When I see pictures of those ladies and him having a good time with him........I feel threatened and the need to tell him right away to tell him I have feelings for him and if he ever wants to pursue me when he's ready for a relationship he can.

Am I jealous? I never felt this way before.

And besides....I have a medical condition where I'm lacking a hormone or two that gives you a s*x drive. In other words I have NO s*x drive and I am going to the doc about it so that I can make love to my husband when I marry him(whoever that may be). So I do feel they can provide for him what I have.

Suggestions?

Is this really jealousy? I never understood jealousy. I'm not angry. I don't hate them.

What I meant was that when I do get married I can make love to my husband if doctors have therapy for women with no s*x drive.

Should I tell him right away? Or the day before he leaves for a mission next year?

How do I tell him? What do I say or don't say?

Answer 1

Yes it is jealousy, but no a bad jealousy. It just means you care. If he is busy with his work, he is probably not ready for any type of relationship right now, but that doesn't mean that it wouldn't make him feel great to know that you feel that way.

Tell his girl. He is a great friend, and will not feel any differently because you do tell him. If you don't tell him, you will always wish you had.

Go for it.