Is this likely to become an affair? Or is it harmless?

Question

Two married people work together – the woman is in her 20s, the guy is 10 years older, both very attractive. He’s way above her, but keeps staring at her at work, following her around, initiating conversation, giving all the signs of a man who’s interested in something more. There has been some verbal flirting, he compliments her, says they have to work “more closely together” – even at a work function with both spouses around, they can’t keep their eyes off each other and flirt all night.

At work, he maintains his distance by being professional and friendly, but shoots her suggestive glances, stares at her from across the room, holds her gaze as he walks by her desk and is always watching her. He gets flustered if he’s talking to someone else and she walks by, acts shy and reserved around her (although he’s outgoing), and sometimes immediately lowers his gaze and seems embarrassed when she catches him watching her from a distance.

But, neither one of them will make a move. Is this likely to become an affair? Or is it a crush?

Answer 1

it will if u get somethin on outside of work, if not then its just a flirt. my boss used to eye raped me. he looked at me like his eyes was gonna tear my shirt apart LOL. so yea i looked at him like his pants gonna get unzipped lol so yea... NOTHING HAPPENED cuz i didnt wanna be wit my boss, it'll be awkward if it doesnt work out. ya know?????????

Answer 2

It's going to turn into whatever the two of them decide it's going to turn into.

Sometimes you don't mean for things to happen and they just do.

Of course if you aren't attempting to avoid the situation then it's going to turn into a lot more then making doe eyes at one another.  

Answer 3

Grow up, have some self respect and morals!

Answer 4

sounds like a crush, for right now.  what it sounds like, even more is that it needs to stop.  you are going to lose your marriage and potentially your job if this goes any further.  it isn't worth it.  you might think that it is now, but it's not.  even if you're single...don't sh*t where you eat.  

Answer 5

There is a saying, " What you think,you feel, and what you feel, you do."  This is the enticing part of the beginning of an affair plus the stupid part of not considering the consequences.  If the two married people care about their spouses, (children???) and their jobs they will turn this off and direct this attention to their current mates.  It can be done and needs to be done if they don't want problems.  This is more than flirting...this is foreplay and don't think other people at work are not noticing.  It is really not fun when you hurt your current mates and jeopardize your jobs.  

Answer 6

It sounds like there is already an affair.  Affairs come in many shapes and forms.  Emotional affairs, although not completely under our control, are still affairs.  If you are asking foe yourself, be very careful.  You may be in for more than you bargained for.

Answer 7

This can become an affair, a crush or a heated argument between spouses. This can also become a heated argument between your  spouse & your love interest (or you & your spouse's love interest)

This can also become dangerous unless it is put to a halt. One may need to talk to their interest in order to put things into perspective. One may come to finding out that their interest wasn't really ever interested in the first place but rather just curious with all the attention. All in all, one will need to begin to ignore the attention and move on as if it was a passing thing. Otherwise it may lead to an affair and many broken hearts. Good luck.  

Answer 8

ohhhh!!!, i hear alarm bells, and they are ringing loudly!!- it will become an affair if either of them acts on it, they both have spouses and i believe one with more common sense should stop the silliness.

Answer 9

That's a crush. That doesn't mean it won't turn into an illicit affair though, it all depends on the two of you.

It's not like you're both swept up in a tide of uncontrollable lust for pity's sake; take the initiative and cut off contact with her now before it gets out of hand!

Answer 10

It will become an affair,

Hope this isn't you, hope this isn't your wife.

if it is you shame shame on you.

if it is your wife... go kick his @$$

Answer 11

it already is an affair...

these 2 are complete losers...  if either one of them is married...

why do you keep asking this?  bored?